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Topic: Is this really weird?
907daydreamer Joined Thu 06/19/08 Posts: 2829	Mon 12/01/08 01:31 PM
About two weeks ago my mom said to me "if you aren't married or in a relationship by the time you're 31 you should consider artificial insemination" WTH??? hah. wow. yep. if she could knock me up herself she would.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Mon 12/01/08 01:32 PM Edited by singmesweet on Mon 12/01/08 01:34 PM
My parents don't really have an issue with it. I only really get questions about it from random men on here.

moofooga Joined Thu 01/31/08 Posts: 25515	Mon 12/01/08 01:38 PM
I'm 30, have never been married and have no kids. Is that really that strange? I get questions about it sometimes. I guess I don't find it strange because most of my friends in this area are the same way. Those who are married with kids have recently gotten married or had kids. It ain't weird if it's the prevailing trend nowadays. People all over the place simply aren't getting hitched and/or poppin' out with the rugrats, and it's a trend that's been going on for at least a decade. A part of has to do with a poor economy (why put yourself even more into financial disarray by having more mouths to feed) as well as bad past experiences with marriage and child-support issues. Others have either grown up in a kind of single-parent household, so they simply don't know what it's like to be a part of a "real family". I'm 35 and I haven't been married nor have I had any kids, as well. Most of that stems from having a piss-poor childhood with parents who fought almost constantly. So, in a way, it's kinda like a form of negative reinforcement.

ddn122 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 12855	Mon 12/01/08 01:38 PM
perhaps, You should "take" those questions as compliment..... Because you are so awesome...they can not believe you are still single... My parents don't really have an issue with it. I only really get questions about it from random men on here.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Mon 12/01/08 01:40 PM
perhaps, You should "take" those questions as compliment..... Because you are so awesome...they can not believe you are still single... My parents don't really have an issue with it. I only really get questions about it from random men on here. You mean like the "So, why is a girl like you looking for a man?" (something similar to an earlier email)

FETTS61 Joined Sat 08/18/07 Posts: 31425	Mon 12/01/08 01:40 PM Edited by FETTS61 on Mon 12/01/08 01:41 PM
Nice to see that some others don't find it strange. Most of the people I went to high school with did get married right out of school and now have 3-4 kids. Which is fine. But, when I moved out of town and met a whole bunch of new people.. they were all more like me. Not rushing to marry. my brother is 40 and has never been married or kids....i got married at 28 and was almost 30 b4 my 1st kid was born, then 40 b4 my 2nd so no its not weird. its smart

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Mon 12/01/08 01:41 PM
I'm 30, have never been married and have no kids. Is that really that strange? I get questions about it sometimes. I guess I don't find it strange because most of my friends in this area are the same way. Those who are married with kids have recently gotten married or had kids. It ain't weird if it's the prevailing trend nowadays. People all over the place simply aren't getting hitched and/or poppin' out with the rugrats, and it's a trend that's been going on for at least a decade. A part of has to do with a poor economy (why put yourself even more into financial disarray by having more mouths to feed) as well as bad past experiences with marriage and child-support issues. Others have either grown up in a kind of single-parent household, so they simply don't know what it's like to be a part of a "real family". I'm 35 and I haven't been married nor have I had any kids, as well. Most of that stems from having a piss-poor childhood with parents who fought almost constantly. So, in a way, it's kinda like a form of negative reinforcement. I had a good childhood and my parents are still married. I just haven't found someone I wanted to actually be married to, I guess.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Tue 12/02/08 09:38 AM
Yet another person asked about this again today. Guess it's the week for this question.

lilith401 Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 19593	Tue 12/02/08 09:43 AM
Say you'd rather not say exactly why, but let it slip that you have turned down three proposals of misongynistic servitude!

Winx Joined Fri 08/31/07 Posts: 39051	Tue 12/02/08 09:45 AM
I'm 30, have never been married and have no kids. Is that really that strange? I get questions about it sometimes. I guess I don't find it strange because most of my friends in this area are the same way. Those who are married with kids have recently gotten married or had kids. No, you are still young. You just got out of your 20's.

adj4u Joined Sun 04/08/07 Posts: 21254	Tue 12/02/08 09:46 AM
About two weeks ago my mom said to me "if you aren't married or in a relationship by the time you're 31 you should consider artificial insemination" WTH??? hah. wow. yep. if she could knock me up herself she would. my guess would be they want their genes passed on to the future and the older you get after a certain age (they think it is 30 something obviously)[probably close to correct] the health risks increase and if yer 32 when you decide to do it you will be 53 when they reach 18 just my observation of the available info given yer an adult and can make yer own decision but should get accurate information to make such an important decision may much good come to you and yours its a grandparent thing

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Tue 12/02/08 09:48 AM
Say you'd rather not say exactly why, but let it slip that you have turned down three proposals of misongynistic servitude!

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Tue 12/02/08 09:50 AM
About two weeks ago my mom said to me "if you aren't married or in a relationship by the time you're 31 you should consider artificial insemination" WTH??? hah. wow. yep. if she could knock me up herself she would. my guess would be they want their genes passed on to the future and the older you get after a certain age (they think it is 30 something obviously)[probably close to correct] the health risks increase and if yer 32 when you decide to do it you will be 53 when they reach 18 just my observation of the available info given yer an adult and can make yer own decision but should get accurate information to make such an important decision may much good come to you and yours its a grandparent thing That's all fine and good... but a parent shouldn't be deciding when their daughter should have children. And, you can have children after you're 30 .

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Tue 12/02/08 09:50 AM
I'm 30, have never been married and have no kids. Is that really that strange? I get questions about it sometimes. I guess I don't find it strange because most of my friends in this area are the same way. Those who are married with kids have recently gotten married or had kids. No, you are still young. You just got out of your 20's. That's how I feel!

adj4u Joined Sun 04/08/07 Posts: 21254	Tue 12/02/08 09:52 AM Edited by adj4u on Tue 12/02/08 09:57 AM
About two weeks ago my mom said to me "if you aren't married or in a relationship by the time you're 31 you should consider artificial insemination" WTH??? hah. wow. yep. if she could knock me up herself she would. my guess would be they want their genes passed on to the future and the older you get after a certain age (they think it is 30 something obviously)[probably close to correct] the health risks increase and if yer 32 when you decide to do it you will be 53 when they reach 18 just my observation of the available info given yer an adult and can make yer own decision but should get accurate information to make such an important decision may much good come to you and yours its a grandparent thing That's all fine and good... but a parent shouldn't be deciding when their daughter should have children. And, you can have children after you're 30 . did you miss the line yer an adult and can make yer own decision and i never said you could not have children after 30 my mom was 44 when my sister was born i was not condoning nor condemning i was explaining imo why they feel the way they do understanding can lead to less fighting over the situation at hand if she explains what they are thinking to them and lets them know she understands how they feel it may reduce the demanding that is taking place

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Tue 12/02/08 09:54 AM
About two weeks ago my mom said to me "if you aren't married or in a relationship by the time you're 31 you should consider artificial insemination" WTH??? hah. wow. yep. if she could knock me up herself she would. my guess would be they want their genes passed on to the future and the older you get after a certain age (they think it is 30 something obviously)[probably close to correct] the health risks increase and if yer 32 when you decide to do it you will be 53 when they reach 18 just my observation of the available info given yer an adult and can make yer own decision but should get accurate information to make such an important decision may much good come to you and yours its a grandparent thing That's all fine and good... but a parent shouldn't be deciding when their daughter should have children. And, you can have children after you're 30 . did you miss the line yer an adult and can make yer own decision Nope. Just commenting on everything you said.

adj4u Joined Sun 04/08/07 Posts: 21254	Tue 12/02/08 09:58 AM
and i never said you could not have children after 30 my mom was 44 when my sister was born i was not condoning nor condemning i was explaining imo why they feel the way they do understanding can lead to less fighting over the situation at hand if she explains what they are thinking to them and lets them know she understands how they feel it may reduce the demanding that is taking place Edited by adj4u on Tue 12/02/08 09:57 AM

Winx Joined Fri 08/31/07 Posts: 39051	Tue 12/02/08 10:01 AM Edited by Winx on Tue 12/02/08 10:10 AM
About two weeks ago my mom said to me "if you aren't married or in a relationship by the time you're 31 you should consider artificial insemination" WTH??? hah. wow. yep. if she could knock me up herself she would. my guess would be they want their genes passed on to the future and the older you get after a certain age (they think it is 30 something obviously)[probably close to correct] the health risks increase and if yer 32 when you decide to do it you will be 53 when they reach 18 just my observation of the available info given yer an adult and can make yer own decision but should get accurate information to make such an important decision may much good come to you and yours its a grandparent thing Adj4u, The risks of childbirth goes up closer to 40. It isn't an issue in the early 30's. Just a tidbit of information.

adj4u Joined Sun 04/08/07 Posts: 21254	Tue 12/02/08 10:10 AM Edited by adj4u on Tue 12/02/08 10:10 AM
that is why i said but should get accurate information to make such an important decision i said they think it is

Winx Joined Fri 08/31/07 Posts: 39051	Tue 12/02/08 10:13 AM
that is why i said but should get accurate information to make such an important decision i said they think it is A couple of years ago my doctor told me that the risks really go up in the 40's. Yep, I was considering it. He did say it was more difficult to get pregnant as you get closer to 40.