Yeah, you saw the part where I said it happens about as often as a blue moon, right?

Ya have a good point, Lex. Maybe I need to be more clear about my standards.

It took me awhile to figure out that I simply wasn't being clear enough in profiles, etc. -- ambiguity can be a problem in a case like this -- but there is still never an excuse for that guy's rudeness!

I personally believe in the idea that, not only should we all be permitted to define and determine our own standards, we also have to allow everyone else the same right.

Just because a person's standards might exclude us, does not make them a bad person, does not mean they don't like us, does not mean they can't be friends with us. All it means is that they're looking for something else within the context/parameters of a "relationship" -- and who better to make those decisions than that person?

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Yes Robin, it is so selfish of you to have any idea of what you want.

I just got a really nice initial mail from a guy who actually took the time to read my profile and wrote a thoughtful and coherent note, the problem, he is 79.

I wrote him a kind and respectful reponse, thanked him for actually reading my profile and for his kind e-mail, but thought our age difference was too great.

He writes me a snotty note back saying it's too bad I have limitations and I obviously have a hang-up about age, telling me I would do well to look beyond age.

I am the one on here preachin' think beyond your limitations, think outside the box! The only hang-up I have is dating someone who's old enough to be my father.

I have to agree, I couldnt date anyone that is old enough to be my father. That is just me though.

When I was on another site, a man older then me gave me a lot of grief because I wouldn't see him because of his age. He said that I was no spring chicken.

I had the opposite happen to me on Friday night. This 39 yr old guy kept bothering me with IM's; for 15-minutes I kept saying no. Finally I lost it and said yes. He told me his ex-wife was older than me (I'm 54) and for that reason I should give us a chance. I nicely told him I don't date men his age. During all this IMing he sent me a friend request and put me as a favorite. OK cool. I explained to him what I was looking for in a man, that I would like to retire with someone my own age etc. Then in his next IM he is insisting that I meet him face to face, because all this on-line stuff is such BS. I told him again for the 5th or 6th time NO it is not going to happen. He called me closed minded, along with alot of other nasty remarks. Being nice doesn't always work. This guy was very scary.

age is definately a factor that just shouldnt be the only reason not to give someone a chance but if the person was rude as soon as u mention his age you probably wouldnt want to be with him anyway

Age is totally irrelevant...around me, the crack of dawn ain't safe...if you are a woman...break out the chastity belt or suffer the consequences.

I have to draw the line at people who are young enough to be my kids. I guess that probably extends to those old enough to be my dad, too...

Yep..they resort to insults and tryin to make you feel like you're the one with the problem. Just proves with age does not necessarily come maturity.