So my kids and i went to go visit my dad for the holiday..he lives about an hour away and with the kids in school not always easy to see him..He has been sick with cancer and heart problems..
Anyway.... my kids father calls to ask my daughter if they are coming to see him. She replys "you never see us and call only when you want to look like a good dad to your friends..She told him we were going to their grandpa's house because he has been ill and we dont know how much time he has left...He hung up on her as usual and said he is not going to pay child support for his kids because they didnt want to see him...

So annoying that he had no problems making these kids but does not want to help support them..Mine are old enough now and make their own decisions...he does not get that they dont just stop being and needing things..

The last time I seen my father I had harsh words for him and it eats me alive inside to this very day to know that was the last time I ever got to speak with him.

they try to see their dad..I have offered many times to bring them up to see him...he chooses his liquor and his g/f over the kids...he then wonders why they dont want to see him

at least your daughter stood up to him.. i couldnt even do that. and im always in the middle when i talk to my dad he ask about my sisters on how there doing, and he doesnt try and call them so i have to tell them dont you think its a good idea to call dad.

wAIT A MINUTE.........he hung up on his kid!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! REALLY!!!!!! the wenis needs to.......i can't say it here, it's too awful


i'd make him an offer he can't refuse, or, how good can he swim???? with weights?

you have no idea..She called him yesterday to see if he had changed his mind about giving us support and he said to her"i didnt work all week a@@hole" and again hung up on her...Nice to say to your kid...

i have some pretty major resentments towards my dad..only hurts me..i have to let them go, but i also have to talk to him about them..but i'm affraid..i know i shouldnt be..my dad is a very old fashioned, strick kinda of guy, so..but i'm trying to get the will to talk to him..but i hate these resentments..have to get rid of them i love the man to death, but....grrrrrrrrr

like you said "so sad"

times have changed, really bad, if a dad hangs upon his kid....

it is a shame...He could be a good dad if he chose to be but he does not get it....His g/f has a kid and he spends more time with her then his own...My kids know I am both Mom/Dad to them and one day he will realize that he is wrong and it might be too lat...dont get me wrong i might despise the man but I always try to get the kids to give him the benefit of the doubt..he is digging his own grave with them...

It is a real shame! And to have him say what he did to his own daughter, no wonder they don't want to see him! He will regret that later on, after they are grown, and he wonders why they don't want anything to do with him!! (If it ever comes to that! )Good luck to you!

That sux.

Despite his involvement(or lack there of), I am certain you are raising wonderful humans....

Sounds like a first class a**hole to me. My son's father is the same. He hasn't seen or called about his son in over 4 years. Pays support when he feels like it. Its irritating. My son is different though due to his special needs. I know my son is better off without someone like that in his life. But kids that understand and comprehend should NEVER be talked to the way your ex talks to his kids. He needs a reality check!

try this one.. its real dozy

my son hasent seen his dad sense he was 2yrs old when we got our divorce..

he talk to him on the phone about 4yrs ago when my son was in the hospitol his dad actually called to see how he was doing.. we had found out that he had gasrtis that his dad and mom had so its heritary..

well and when he was in the hospitol last yr and we didnt know if he was going to make it.. i actually harassed his dad for him to come down and see him.. he gave me excuses as why he couldnt come down and one was he didnt have a car, so i called later and his wife answer the phone and she said oh but i have a suv..... well geeze.. so they came down and brought his daughter i sware his daughter had more freaken brains than her dad. and i later learned from my sister that the only reason they came down was so i would stop harassing him and his daughter wanted to meet her half brother..
we didnt tell my son his dad was there for he already went through a ordeal.. so were planing on getting them together but not sure yet and im wondering if his dad even agree...('a hole!)

Sounds to Me as 2 things are Obvious, 1 - Your ex is an assh0le, and 2 - You appear to have done an awesome Job of raising Smart Kids

I am not a perfect Dad, never was, never will. If for any reason I miss my wk-end with my girls, I try to get some time with them during the wk. Like today, went over and hung out for a couple of hrs, had them over for dinner last night. We played Scrabble, burned a few CD s. I got some pics from when they were over at my place carving pumpkins. I used to believe that if a Dad didn't get to see his kids, he shouldn't have to pay support. Well now I know the two are unrelated. Each are important to your kids. I am so glad I can see my kids whenever, heck sometimes they get in the car and come on over.