Why is it, when we talk about or exes, wether they be ex-girl/boy friends, or ex-spouses, ex-lovers or whatever, we almost never can say anything nice about them? Everything always seems to be the other persons fault, not our own.

I know I have done my share of trash-talking about my ex, some of it in seriousness, and some of it in jest; but seriously, there must have been something there in the first place to attract us to them, or we would never have hooked up (to coin a phrase) i the first place, right?

Well, I think it's time we all stop and think for a moment about something nice in regards to our ex'es; and I do NOT mean "it's nice that we are divorced now", or "it's nice to not have to....". Take some time and really think about your ex. Not everything was their fault in the relationship, even if it was a case of you letting them be the way they are for so long (being an enabler).

Let's here about some of the better memories of our former relationships, and let go of all those grudges.




In my case, my ex-wife would always try to remember to thank me for having dinner ready, and a bath ran for her, when she got home from the motor pool (she was in the army at the time). She always did her best not to take it for granted that I did not HAVE to have dinner on the table, or a hot bath with candles and oils ready for her to sit back in and relax.

One thing I liked about my ex .. he never said no.

hey daniel---long time no see?--

nah i don't share the ex story--just let it be bygone be bygone--

I think its nice my ex moved into a house a block away from me...I can see her whenever I want,if I look through my rifle scope

My most recent ex and I were a great couple for the 7 years we were together, where she was weak, I was strong and where I was weak she was strong.
I still love her.

my x is awesome at..........

well...

giving me the silent treatment!!

okay, on a poistve point he can grill out very good. he can make a decent burger and steak.

My ex is a good father-

He is a great guy- for someone else- it just didn't work with the two of us- noone's fault- noone is a horrible person- it just wasn't meant to work out.

I wish him all the best and hope he finds someone soon

for those who want to get smart, let me rephrase the question. Please name one good thing about the relationship you had with your ex. Wether it was that they always remembered your anniversary, or that they always took te kids for an afternoon to give yo ua break. Name something they did that was nice during the relationship (or even since the breakup if you are on amicable terms).

In other words do not bash the ex in this thread please.

Thank you for that great response.

The last three interactions with my ex have been quite pleasant. She did not ask me for more money.
She NEVER jacks me around when it comes to visitation or time with my girls.

I have neither good, nor bad to say about
my exes.

OK,OK,OK-shes a good mom to my son....still like the scope comment though

my x was a good person tell she had our child then she changed to another person.it is not her fult that she has become bipolar.the baby changed her body chemistry.i had to leave to protect the child from are daily fighting.soon after a 4 years in and out of court it should be done.

you are so lucky.i have had 4 years of it

lol, I agree it is funny, but I hope to get people to at least look at some of the bette memories, or good things instead of all the bad. When you look at only the bad parts of a failed relationship, and never the good, you dont know what to look for in your next one.

true,but it lets ya know what to look out for

Hmmmmmmmm one good thing?

When we had our first kiss and I drove away, he ran out into the middle of the street just to kiss me one more time.

Yep, that was a good thing.

I have nothing bad to say about any of my ex's...of course I guess I'm "young" but still nothing bad to say about any of them.

It doesn't matter how good the story was in the middle, It was the ending that was the s****

I have to agree with you I have tried always not to bash my EX's since to me that would bring me down. I have damn good taste in men and I will be damned if I start bashing them.
My EX husband was a great friend, and partner till the booze and drugs got in and he couldn't let go. Before that he was fantastic.My EX was one of the hardest working men I have ever seen in my life he also was a gifted carver with wood.

My recent EX BF.. Nah he is a good man we just couldn't see eye to eye on some key issues and I think the age was agreat factor and the distance between us was huge and hard to over come. He is a great father to his kids and tries to always look at all sides of the issues even if he doesn't understand.