If he is not asking for advice, MYOB. You cannot control a situation you are not a part of and you don't want to get in the middle of another person's marriage. He cannot be treated any way other that what HE allows.

OK, you're right maybe it has I didn't look at it that way. I guess I didn't consider creating my own drama, I was just trying to find a way out by posting it on here and getting some opinions.

sometimes it just takes a stranger to really make us realize wow what is really going on here?.. honestly i think you would become depressed if you left cause you friends seem really important to you and that is awesome!!! i bet you would miss them too much

I actually think I miss Colorado more than anything. Yes, I do love my friends, but I have others in Colorado that I left so I could come here. I'm torn between everybody living in all sorts of different places. Sometimes I guess I wish I didn't care some damn much about how everybody is.

23 is quite awkward... i remember it well beleive it or not! some are couples now.. some even have kids or 2 lol... some get to experience the single life and the bars and dating etc... some have steady jobs .. some arent ready for steady jobs.. some are still in school . some live down the street.. some moved to lands you never imagined.. some stay in the town they grew up in all their life... some experiment a different state and come back... now do you see why i dont want to be 23 again? you are totally normal. ive never been to colorado but have seen pics it looks beautiful there...... perhaps neither one is your destiny you are very young still... explore and do it for you

okay ... here's a lil piece of advice.

walk away.


because the relationship with your friend is already tainted. if he's willing let her sleep with other guys while still being legally married to him that makes him just as bad as her. he knows he needs to divorce her but won't. so he suffers. he doesn't talk to you because you'll say the same you always have. leave her. or talk to her. either of those he's not willing to do or face. so you can no longer be talked to about his depression which is his own damned fault.

yes i'm harsh. thats because i have no remorse for people who wallow in their pain. change it or shut up. ya know?

sh*t or get off the pot.

i've lost my best guy friend to an insane psychotic over emotional bi polar girl who has successfully removed all of his female friends.

but it was his choice. so i told him flat out..

i won't make him choose between our friendship and love. he loves her. and for that reason alone.. i let him go.

and told him ... that when he needs me as a friend.. i'll always be there to tell him the facts of life and be his reality check.

he's come back once and disappeared once and i've taken no pain for it. i wish him the best with his choices. its sad but thats life.

you may want to consider the same as i don't regret being the better person in that situation. plus.. it only made her look worse lol

good luck.