Ok so, I did break up with my boyfriend last week, however the breakup was kind of by default.. i.e. We decided to end things now so we didnt get more attached to one enother before he moved in virginia... I've been having second thoughts about the decision we made, like i havent been able to get him off my mind at all... Like half hour ago, he texts me saying how much he misses me, and that he wishes we were still together, i feel the same way but i dont know if i want to push myself back into the relationship knowing that im going to get even more hurt after he leaves for virginia only because i see how much it hurts me now, I'd really like to be with him though

Anyway, he invited me over his house to talk and whatnot... i dont know what i should do... i know if i go over his house it could be another risk of getting hurt... but i miss him so much... and i know if we're going to sit down and talk about this im going to cry over it.

My heart is in two right now and i really just dont know what to do, i need some serious advice

Well you broke up for the wrong reasons then I know there are alot of circumstances here, but just enjoy the time you 2 have together before the move. You never know when you may see eachother again.

If you two want to be together- what about you moving to Virginia also- is that a possibility? You two obviously care deeply for each other so why not try to make it work- relocate- Virginia is lovely- you might really like it there.

I'm not stable enough to move to virginia, whether it be financially or emotionally

You did a good job of talking it out above Pinky. You know that going there is a mistake.

Ok well NJ is not too far from VA-so maybe a long distance thing might work - I know you are still in school and thats important and you are still young- yeah i said it- you are young. You have your whole life in front of you- Finish your education and since you say you are unable to relocate due to financial and emotional instability- stay in NJ and rely on your support system but still talk to him- keep the lines of communication open and you just don't know what is going to happen in the future. Many years ago I bit the bullet and moved from NJ to Florida and it was so incredibly hard with no support system but i did it and now Im moving back up north in about a week - again no support system but it is possible if you really want to do it. Don't lose hope ok?

if you go... and the talk leads to sex, then ... something's not right.

Ok..

You take some Toll House Cookies (guys love those) and make a trail to your closet..

there you have shackles and you tie him up..

and keep him as your love slave forever!

Just sayin....heehee.

So, i did end up going over his house earlier... no things did NOT lead to sex... It was just dificult... like i'm damned if i do i'm damned if i dont

we were talking about it... and despite the fact that we're no longer "together" it was beyond hard to look at him as just a friend... he even said it himself... that he can't look at me as just a friend... that he can't see himself with anyone else right now.. keyword being right now, because as time goes on i'm sure things will change after he moves to virginia... and now the problem is, neither one of us want to be apart, nor do we want to stay "just friends"... but we found out tonight that it's extremely awkward hanging out as just friends... and if we continue to hang out as just friends feelings will still escolate

If you wait to be stable in life you might wait a long time, who's really stable these days.

That sure does sound like a humdinger.

just remember that your brain isnt in between your legs!!!

Always saying the right things ah Gypsy? LOL

hELL YA!!! Im also great at large family gatherings and company christmas parties!!!

I bet you are girl

holy crap! this is the first time i've ever heard of a woman not want to "have a talk".i think i'm going to pass out....i need air....






Medic!