I haope U have a great Birthday, U can always count on your Mingle family to be here for ya!!!

Well Happy Birthday Sweetie!!


I know the feeling. No one around on my 16th and 24th birthday...hmmph!

Happy Birthday.

breathless guy

I dont get your comment, it is like you are saying that I am the bad person, but happy birthday? If I wasn't coming from a good place inside of myself, first I wouldn't be busting my hump all year long without asking for anything and second, I would be on the phone or at the house hounding them. I did post that noone in my life had done anything because I know that if they were even going to say happy birthday, they would have done it by now instead of calling me this morning asking me to watch their daughter tomorrow or going out to dinner. (Yeah, they just left me a message to go by the house and take the barrel to the corner.)



To everyone else, thank you for all of your well wishes and help.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RHTN0sSXDEQ

Happy Birthday

I am sorry your people let you down Honey.
Birthdays are always tough.

You hope this is the day that says you are special. Hopefully somewhere along the line someone has told you that. Maybe not enough a lot of people are looking for that feeling because they haven't really felt it. It is a rational belief that a birthday is special.

Society tells us that is what we are suppose to do. We even sing Happy Birthday to strangers in a resturant. All kinds of customs and jokes surround it.

Our expectations, justly so, if we make the effort to remember the special things for others, that they are going to remember us. Just seems fair doesn't it? Giving gifts is fun. You enjoy the process of thinking of a gift, buying it, and giving it. You want the recipient to feel good; even thrilled. You like the reaction the recipient gets. If you are a giver you think in that mind set.

Unfortuneatly that isn't many people's mind set. Many people are takers. They take whatever attention they get as if they are entitled to with no responsibilities to give anything. That whatever you give them is an absolute gift that requires no appreciation, gratitiude, or careing to accept it. They have been told love is unconditional and has no responsibilities, no conditions, or loyalties. It's a freebie.

Sometimes they find the gift and intrusion of unwelcome attention and more of a debt than a reciprocal bond. They would rather have the control of buying their own stuff. That gifts make a big deal out of something that only has meaning they want it to have. They don't want you inserting yourself in their life without their permission. They resent the obligation. And feel you are trying to take something they didn't ask for.

I am NOT saying you are but sometimes people just feel like you are asking too much. They will feel bad buying whatever they can. That they don't know what to get. Lot of people say "anything" but anything doesn't do it. Whatever they do get won't be enough. If you have given so much that they are overwhelmed it is just too hard a hill to climb. If they get you something then they set up a chain of having to buy for everyone regardless if they earned it or not.

What you have to determine is are you hurt because people haven't wanted to give you a gift or because you are hurt that they really don't want your gifts enough to earn them?

I feel pretty sure it will feel foreign to you but go out and buy yourself a gift. Something that is symbolic and has value especially to you. My suggestion would be a journal to explore your own feelings.

And if you want to have a good cry; go for it. The reality of life sometimes is not fun and you have a right to feel dissappointed when it is not.

I will tell you that when you get a little older you will just be glad to get another year above ground. Sending you a Warm Grandma Hug!

i know how you feel. the only one in my lives who remember is my parents. but they live with me so they have to.

so happy birthday from someone who completely feels the pain!

Guess you brushed by my request to "don't take this the wrong way"!

I never once stated you were a "bad person"...those are your words, not mine. I simply was saying you may wish to look at your motives when you extend your graciousness to others is all.

I find, for *myself*, when I pull out a personal scorecard when I'm hurt about how I perceive others treat me, perhaps my intentions of my acts of kindness towards them were not altogether pure.

Again, I'm not bashing and certainly don't wish to rain upon your birthday parade...and my birthday wishes are sincere.

I am neither looking for, nor asking for a gift. I just wanted ANYONE to call me or even send a test to say, hey, happy birhtday. I have never been big on material stuff. But everyone in my life knows that I am big on family and love, loyalty and all the other warm things. I am not the type of person to ask anyone to bowe and kiss the rings. I do not say, hey you owe me or ask for anything. I get hollered at for not asking for help, even when I need it most. What is wrong with wanting the people that I think are are a blessing in my life to say that they love me and are glad that I am here. That is what really irks me. And I know that their are people who have ultierior motives, but I do for my family and friends BECAUSE they are my family and friends. If my motives were that jacked up, I would have been mean and scheming years ago.