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Topic: What should I do?
snarkytwain Joined Thu 09/11/08 Posts: 2789	Wed 11/19/08 10:45 AM
Make him clean it. Make him wait till the next meal to eat again. I don't know how it is in your state, but here CPS takes things into consideration. I know, I asked my worker everything I could think of (from babysitting age to punishments), while I had her at my house to make damned sure. Kids have to learn there are consequences for their actions. I had to ground my daughter from everything (including drawing -- which I applaud and love to encourage as she is very talented and it makes her happy), so she would get her schoolwork done. It was hard, and there were times I thought I was the meanest, worst mommy ever, but being a parent means having to do things that are hard sometimes. ...and trust me, I have the guilt too. Never good enough. Never know enough. Never doing the right thing. Blah blah. In the end, the only opinion that matters is that of your child(ren) ...when they're adults, of course.

daniel48706 Joined Fri 03/16/07 Posts: 8566	Wed 11/19/08 04:42 PM
...when they're adults, of course. yeah, cause when they are adults they are the oens who choose your nursing home

wanderedtowayX Joined Tue 11/18/08 Posts: 10	Wed 11/19/08 06:18 PM
My six year old son was playing with his breakfast (again!) and knocked it over all over the floor (again!!!). I have been battling this with him on and off for as long as I can remember now; he knows he is not supposed to play atthe table, he knows that food costs money that we dont have a lot of (at least as much as any six year old does), and he knows it makes me upset when he does it. For now, I simply told him I have had enough of this issue and he is not getting another bowl of cereal (thats what he dropped). I fully intend on giving him a snack in a little while (an apple or something) but I do NOT feel I should replace his breakfast, as it only teaches him that he can continue this issue without worrying about wether or not he will have a full meal after wasting the food. And dont get me wrong, if it had been an honost accident I wouldnt be so upset and tired of it, but as I said this is a continual issue (3 and 4 times a week).

wanderedtowayX Joined Tue 11/18/08 Posts: 10	Wed 11/19/08 06:21 PM
If I were u I would try getting some of the toddler bowls that stick to the table with a suction cup. If he deliberatly takes the bowl off the table put him in timeout for six minutes(one for each year)

Lily0923 Joined Sun 12/02/07 Posts: 20429	Fri 11/21/08 07:07 PM
he does this with all his food. And he absolutely loves his chereos (he'll throw a fit if he doesnt get them). Right there is the issue... Why do you let him throw fits? Why do you allow him to run the show? Who is the adult in the house? Who makes and sets the rules and boundries? Be the parent, don't be manipulated by the 6 year old/

njmom05 Joined Mon 04/23/07 Posts: 5867	Fri 11/21/08 07:13 PM
My six year old son was playing with his breakfast (again!) and knocked it over all over the floor (again!!!). I have been battling this with him on and off for as long as I can remember now; he knows he is not supposed to play atthe table, he knows that food costs money that we dont have a lot of (at least as much as any six year old does), and he knows it makes me upset when he does it. For now, I simply told him I have had enough of this issue and he is not getting another bowl of cereal (thats what he dropped). I fully intend on giving him a snack in a little while (an apple or something) but I do NOT feel I should replace his breakfast, as it only teaches him that he can continue this issue without worrying about wether or not he will have a full meal after wasting the food. And dont get me wrong, if it had been an honost accident I wouldnt be so upset and tired of it, but as I said this is a continual issue (3 and 4 times a week). Is it only at breakfast, or does he do this at every meal?

ddrgkd Joined Fri 05/02/08 Posts: 287	Tue 12/16/08 04:32 PM
Do you attend church? A lot of the time going to church with your children regularly will help.

iceprincess Joined Tue 11/07/06 Posts: 5938	Wed 12/17/08 05:58 PM
Do you attend church? A lot of the time going to church with your children regularly will help. Pray tell how would attending church help with the OP's issue?

Winx Joined Fri 08/31/07 Posts: 39051	Wed 12/17/08 08:27 PM
Do you attend church? A lot of the time going to church with your children regularly will help. Pray tell how would attending church help with the OP's issue? I was wondering that too.

Unknow Joined Fri 10/06/06 Posts: 4066	Wed 12/17/08 09:17 PM
Do you attend church? A lot of the time going to church with your children regularly will help. Pray tell how would attending church help with the OP's issue? I believe that his answer to everything. To bad its not that easy. I agree with Lily you have to let him know who's the adult. There's some good suggestions already given. My kid is grown and been many years since I have dealt with something like that so I will suggest trying some of those already mentioned. In response to the church guy, yes it is a good thing but in my opinion even with children should not be forced. To me that will cause them to resent going and I personally would not want my child to do that..