Ok, I was talking to my ex today about the kids and what was going on
for Easter. I have to work and won't be home until 3:30 pm so I wanted
all the kids to spend the day with their dad till I got home from work
and then I would take the kids up to his parents (long story, lol, don't
ask ) for dessert and stuff. Well, after we get that topic started, out
of the blue he asks me if I would meet his friend. I was like what
friend? A girl? he says yeah... And I was like, well, lol, why? wouldnt
that be uncomfortable for her? and well, everyone? And he told me that
he would just like my opinion and to know what I think of her. To which
I said, well, its not my opinion that matters but yours.

I just felt strange getting asked that. And asked him how he would feel
if I wanted to introduce him to a man that I was seeing? And he said he
would be fine with giving me his opinion of him ( wth )

I feel kinda flattered that he values my opinion. And rather crushed at
the same time which makes no sense to me. I told him if it means that
much to him that I will but that he needs to talk to her about it first.
And I will be fair to her. Even though it hurts. Now why the hell does
it hurt? Arggh.

Well, smilingeyes, sounds like he did what he wanted to do.... He made
you envious and hurt. Sounds to me that was his intention. Why does it
hurt? Because.....you're human...that's why. I've been hurt as a lot
of other people also have and happens every single day. I'm really
sorry he put that burden on your shoulders as he should not have asked
you that question. He needs to keep his personal love life quiet and to
himself....not spread his joy, happiness and bragging to you to make you
feel like crap. Again....I'm very sorry for the hurt. I know how it
feels.

Hey babe,
I don't get it.
Where's the punchline?

Yeah it hurts, because he's moved on but Smilin gurl check her out since
she will be involved with your kids.Sorry for the pain but without pain
then how would we know when the good things come along.

Aww don't worry smilingeyes I'm always confused too








It hurt cause he was yours at one time, no matter what you will have
some sort of feelings for him,

Hey Smilin',
Want me to ride up and we can double date?

I have never posted an opinion on here, not my sort of thing,but when it
comes to the kids...thats a different matter altogether
I DISAGREE( in an agreeable way off course ) it sounds like he is
trying to bridge the gap and keep everyone comfortable so everyone may
be involved in the childrens lives...sometimes its difficult to put our
emotions aside and look at what is best for the kids
On this one I think he deserves the benefit of the doubt.
Hope you all have a Wonderful Easter !

Sounds like you've been there.

its definitely hard... but i would want to meet her. you are going to
hear about her, so it will be easier to handle what your children have
to say if you meet her. Not that I think that he should ask you what
you think about her, as it is not your choice to make nor do i think
that you meeting her makes you capable of deciding if he will be happy
with her.

i think hes asking that outta respect to your kids if the woman is going
to be around your kids...

no, i agree that getting along with her is important for the kids. And I
wouldn't NOT get along with her just for spite. I'm not made that way.
It was just the "asking for my approval" that kinda confused me.

sidelined is right...I can truely understand the feelings you may have
about that situation...but once the first contact has been delt
with...things hopefully will get easyer.

think he was nervous about approaching u with it and it maybe csme out
that way..

I think that if the kids get a good vibe, They'll let you know and then
you can take that step. I think the whole deal is tacky.

thanks for the input everyone :) Ahh well. it'll get easier.
((((hugs)))

personally he should not have asked for you to give an opinion.
However, if he is trying to give you a chance ot know who is around your
children than I am sorry hun but i have to give him a lot of kudos. And
no matter what his intentions WERE, you take this as a chance ot get to
know her and see who the children will be aroud, so that you can have
peace of mind there. ANd who knows, if you are open minded enough for
it, she may become your next best friend. DOnt blame her for his past
mistakes or currewnt ones, ok hun?

sounds like you still love him more than you want too!!!! thats ok
girl..nothing wrong with that!!!