yeah i am not sure how to feel just when i start to get an opinion on the matter in my head she will send me a text and it makes me start thinking all over again. ive been trying to work more and longer days and pickup sidework where i can like today, iam a bit of a workaholic so i am hoping maybe that will help?

You can work until you drop in your tracks and she will be collecting widow benifits but you won't have your marriage back.

Seperated means you have boundries and she doesn't get to text you at will if you don't want it.

My definition of seperated isn't married living in two seperate houses. Seperated means that you are putting the marriage contract on hold. Seperated is meeting at distinctive regular times to be recieveing counseling and exchangeing necessary information but it isn't constant access. As a single parent I can tell you don't even have to have untettered access. That is the real cost of divorce and hopefully that is what seperation can at least give you both a taste of.

Welcome aboard, get yourself known, and find what you find.