From the same "Stupid cell"...

What if you, a friend and your younger children were grocery shopping.
Your friend became distracted in an aisle and the kids stayed along their side. As soon as the distraction was over, your "friend" walked away from your kids but made sure they took their own child with them...

How would that sit with some of the parents here?

why would I be walking away from my children?

I would be kinda pissed cause I thought they were a friend keeping an eye on my child

I agree.

My friends wouldn't have done that, but in case I thought they were and did it I would be pissed. They obviously weren't much of a friend in the first place. It would also depend on the reason I walked away and why I didn't say I was.

Sounds like not a very good friend but then I don't expect my friends to babysit my kids when I am right there. Maybe she is trying to tell you something in a subtle way rather than make a big issue out of it.

the grocery store is a dangerous place filled with people be careful who you refer to as a friend

It is a "he" and He can't say ANYTHING bad about my boys.
Everyone that has ever met my boys have told me the were the best behaved kids- EVER! They are well mannered, very polite and considerate of others
I am such a proud momma.

I asked this question as a part 2 of another topic:
http://mingle2.com/topic/show/171785

He wasn't trying to tell me anything...He is a selfish, inconsiderate individual and I just needed others to voice their opinion to help him realize- the rest of the world around him isn't crazy.
He has to come to terms he is the one with the issue

My boys wanted to walk with him and his son.
I was further down the aisle
Thank you

My kids know where I am, and have a choice as to whom they stand near, they aren't mindless idiots, and never were.

If my kids couldn't find me they bellow MUM! at the top of their lungs till they do.

Wanna try and abduct two bellowing kids?

Good luck with that!

Mission Impossible

Someone dragging two screaming kids from a store would more than likely draw applause from store employees and strangers thinking that finally some parent is controling their kids. It is sad but the general public is not that sympathetic of children and they like even less parents that let them run free destroying merchandise that just gets added on to the price of what they buy.

It really bites that if your kids were being good that this guy just walked off but if he didn't say leave them with me he had a right not to take charge of them which you might or might not like.

I think it is sad that people don't take a more community oriented slant and just look out for kids in general but it is so messed up how if you do your are accused of being a pervert or cursed out by parents as being unfair. Guys learn early on to keep their hands off. He may be selfish but he is also self preserving.

Why would you leave your kid (or hers) with her when she's "distracted." Obviously, if she's distracted, she's not paying attention. And, jmo, they're your kids, not hers, therefore your responsibility, not hers.

Ok Suzin,
If you're going to make comment on a thread, try and keep up...
A- Not "her"- it's a guy
B- He knew the kids were with him, He told me it was ok, he would keep an eye on them. I was further down the aisle when I watched him pick his little boy up and walk away leaving my 2 kids standing there looking at the Hot wheels cars.

I brought it to his attention right away and I told him it was screwed up for him to make sure he had his kid before he walked away after reassuring me he would keep and eye on all of them. He apologized.

I know they are MY kids. I happen to be one of the most responsible parents you could ever meet. I don't EVER "leave" my kids with other people just so I can "go do my thing"
We were supposed to be friends. We went grocery shopping together because our boys really like each other and they get along. I told my boys to come on, I wasn't going to buy them any cars- HE said, "No it's ok, I will keep an eye on them"...shortly after the grown up was no longer entertained, he picked up his kid and walked away.

^ That, you don’t do.

I didn’t ASK him to watch the boys. He offered.

My apologies, I did miss the post where you said your friend was a he. But, I did go back and check and no where, until you responded to me, did you say that he had offered to watch your kids. That, of course, does put it into a new light. Had you said that upfront, I wouldn't have responded the way I did, the circumstances were vastly different.

I didn't mean to come across as harsh, I apologize if I did

I apologize too Suzin.
I was short with you and I shouldn't have expected you to know the whole situation.
I got short because I dedicate my life to raising my boys the best way I know how...So much so, I have "lost" myself in the process.

The one time I drop my guard with someone I thought was a friend and have that happen to me is upsetting.

Thank you for the reply

No worries Ms. V! I know about the dedication but you have to think about yourself sometimes too. A well-rounded, happy mom makes for a better mom and happier kids who grow up to be happier adults. Take some "me" time once in a while, it makes being a mommy so much easier

Speaking of 'me' time.... my two youngest are off to visit their big brother, his partner and their big sister on Wednesday.... two flights, a four hour lay over in Brisbane...

This is their first time flying, and although they are incredibly wise young people it is still heart in throat just thinking about it.

This is a gift from their big brother,(23) who moved away and joined the defence force four years ago, and their big sister (20) who moved to Sydney for study and a bigger experience..an adventure for the little people, and an opportunity for the four of them to enhance their relationship as siblings independent of their mother.

The first time I have been child free for nine years... and already I am a little overwhelmed. I dont ever feel a need or want to be far from my kids... they aren't demanding, and are fairly self sufficent so I have not really felt a need for a 'break'... other than it's starting to feel like a tearing, rather than a break..

No-one ever warned me that when you had a child, your heart walked around on the outside of your body... mine walks in four different directions..

I agree.... Especially if you were right down the same eisle..Just because YOUR kids wanted to walk with him and his son, doesnt mean he agreed to babysit... JMO

REEEEAD people...REEEAD