I have to have a safety net. I drive myself and meet them in public. I have only met a couple of men from online, and I was scared each time. It's like doing something your mother would have warned you never to do...but trying to do it responsibly at least.

I believe u should go at it with an open mind.

Awareness of the fact it can go 1 of two ways, it can be positive and great, or it can be not-so-great! Eitherway, its got ya out the house for a social occasion, so make the most of it!

IDK wolfie...but if you listen to CB I'll kiss her...

Note: NEVER LISTEN TO CB. He's a cad.

I'm guessing you'll be just fine!

The 24 hour rule??? Does that work????

Works good for the first 23 hrs,

I absolutely love the whole process of getting to know as much as I can about a person. People open up to me easily and those first conversations can be practically endless.

It's all about turning the unknown into the understood -- and who knows, maybe even more....

The first meeting has never scared me. Follow-ups are always the problem - anyone can bluff through the first couple; then they know more.

When I met yantraimages for the first time, thank God he kissed me within the first few minutes! First there was the longggg hug, like ahhh finally. Then while waiting for my luggage, he kissed me. Just a peck or two but it definately broke the ice so that I wouldn't be wondering for the next 23 hours when he might do it!

I recently met this guy from another site and we talked for a while and just were on that level of being able to talk about anything so when i met him i actually wasnt nervous at all and we hung out like we knew each other for years so if your able to connect like that, takes so much pressure off

Both. Dive, after ensuring your exit/escape has been tested.
It's just like climbing cliffs, or skydiving, or anything that's risky. Test your equipment and test your responses, then your confidence is high and you are more yourself and more capable.

I have found that if I meet someone that I have emailed a few times, IM chat a few times; at least enough to know there interests and some of their values and we have hit it off enough to feel like it would be friendly it takes a lot of the stress off. Every time I have not followed that pattern I have met a troll. If I even get a whiff that they are only meeting me for a "look see" to see if I am "the one" or they think they are going to "get lucky" then forget it. I am sorry the whole kiss someone you have never met seems a little forward to me. Someone I even feel a "instant attraction" for I am not going to lay one on. Them maybe a memorable lingering first kiss good night. Save the tonsil tango for the moving towards head over heels in love stage.