You're right Judy. I've had that problem all my life. You behave like a friend to a guy and he think's it's a whole different ballgame.

HI........................

hi my name is seahawks. i think im not afraid of woman.?

ALL MY LIFE IVE FACED REJECTION
OTHER THAN FROM MY X WIFE
AND EVENTUALLY I ENDED UP REJECTED BY HER.
SO MAYBE IM JUST TIRED OF REJECTION

My fear comes from past experience of getting burned by the one person I thought I could truly trust. If he could do it, then I figured anyone else would be just as likely. I'm slowing working my way out of that though. I still do get some sad feelings when it happens.....brings back memories I guess that I don't care to relive. The worst rejections to me are the ones where a person just ignores you, as if you aren't worthy of a reply. That has happened to me once here and it wasn't even someone I was interested in.....just an offer for friendship and a bit of advice i was needing. I felt like crap for even putting myself out there.

not difficult at all!!! hello, jill!

You should never feel like crap for "putting yourself out there". If you tried to be friendly to someone you didn't even know... and they didn't deem you worthy of a response, then it's their loss. Not yours.

Thank you.

Saying hello is not difficult, it is following the hello up with something intelligent that is. That for me is difficult. I have faced rejection many times in the past, and it never gets much easier for me (well maybe a little) Now I just have gotten in the habit of avoiding it completely, hence why I don't go on dates lol

Well if you weren't so scared and just had a normal conversation and actually talked to women like we're people too you would get more dates.

Yea but they are really beautiful people. Once the nerves start going, the brain shuts down.

OK jut because she's beautiful doesn't mean you can't speak to her. And if you try and she's even remotely crappy to you then you know right then and there that she's not good for you. So you really have nothing to lose.

NO one wants to be rejected, sometimes it's just easier not to say anything.......

Hmmmmmmmmmm hello? What a novel idea...... might have 2 try that sometime......

sorry I took the easy way for to long. I spent way to much of my life being scared of rejection. Now I take my chances and just have fun.

It's really changed how I deal with men in general. I don't need the drama. *sigh*

I agree .. I am never afraid of rejection anymore. Life is short. We only get our journey one time .. why live with regrets eh?

I have never had any sort of problem approaching anyone. I spend a lot of time alone because I work at home and there's no one here but me and my pets, so when I'm out in the community I always smile, wave, chat with people, and try to get to know everyone. I consider people interesting and I always want to hear what's going on with them. If I'm in a bar or nightclub I will always talk to whoever is sitting near me, or to the bartender if there's no one else there.

I don't do this as a means of picking up a potential sex partner, however. I consider it in poor taste to troll the community looking for casual sex, right? I have to live with these people, and might even need to rely on them for help at some point, so I figure if I stir up a bunch of drama in the community I'll suffer for it later. Therefore a local (eligible) guy will have to give me the eye on multiple occasions before I'll even entertain the idea of a shag with him. The last time I actually took someone up on an offer like that was when I was A LOT younger, too. These days I'm more than content to keep things cool with my neighbors and wait until I see my favorite boyfriend.

Sometimes people get the wrong idea and my friendliness makes them suspicious or whatever, or I'll run into someone who's terminally lonely and I won't be able to shake that person, but it's never been that big of a problem. (If worse comes to worst and the person ends up being a nut--well, that's why I always carry a weapon, right..?)

yours in Chaos, Scarlett

If you're already thinking that way about yourself, how do you expect women to think any differently?