trying to hard or not trying hard enough to find a simple woman to marry and why are they so scared of longterm and marriage???please help me out

they are waiting for me to propose to them

If somebody mentioned that they wanted to get married right off the bat like that, it would scare me away.

1. your coming off desperate
2. If your looking for instant then you are scaring them off.
3. Patience is a virtue

~shakes head


nevermind

i had a guy that i dated for about a month and the very first day i got a email from him he told me he was in love with me, before he even met me.. he even mention marriage.(no he was not a nigerian he lived here in town)...but he was exptecting me to tell him i loved him when i didnt.. but the only reason i broke up with him was he couldnt emotionally supporte his own self where i wanted the emtionally supportive part from someone that could provide that and he couldnt

WHAT A LOSER!!!!
i had a guy that i dated for about a month and the very first day i got a email from him he told me he was in love with me, before he even met me.. he even mention marriage.(no he was not a nigerian he lived here in town)...but he was exptecting me to tell him i loved him when i didnt.. but the only reason i broke up with him was he couldnt emotionally supporte his own self where i wanted the emtionally supportive part from someone that could provide that and he couldnt

ok you both have the same story,who had the guy

Honestly after reading that I had to look at his profile to make sure he was not gay, as I failed to see Queen's post before that.

hmmmm. I never have met a "simple" woman. Maybe thats where you're losing points. By nature they are all quite complicated.

I know that if I met someone on here or even in line at the grocery store that said she was looking for a husband, I'd bolt.

We don't look for marriage (unless we need a green card) . We just look to meet someone that we can abide, then love THEN marry. Parts one and two are hard enough without even considering three.

Wow, you have really spruced up your profile! Those are some good pictures too. Nice work.

Anyway, to answer your question: You are only 25 years old and I know it gets frustrating, but you have to give it some time. If you want a really solid long-term relationship, you can't rush it. On a social site you are going to have to message a lot of people in order to get a few replies. It's not just like that for you, it's like that for everybody (except really hot chicks, but don't tell me you would rather be a chick! even hot! no way, right? damn straight! it's no picnic!).

Try to enjoy the purely social aspects of a social website and keep your expectations to a minimum as far as finding someone to spend the rest of your life with. If you are too impatient you'll end up with the wrong person. Maybe you think that's better than nothing, but believe me: It's not.

"However long it takes" should be your motto, if you really want to find love.

About three years ago a friend of mine who has gained a reputation for making predictions about people that always come true in a startling way (she's not a fortuneteller like me; she just gets these flashes about things) told me that "in about a year and a half" I was going to meet the man of my dreams, my soulmate (her words, not mine! I don't really think there is such a thing), and that I needed to "get ready".

I thought she was full of it (I figured it was a manipulative move on her part to get me to stop drinking) and it actually made me angry. However, since I knew that she had made correct predictions about people before, I couldn't quite entirely discount it.

So "a year and a half", right? GRUMBLE, FUME!!! Why would she tell me that? She's a lying cow! (and so on) But every so often I would think about it. And that year and a half went by realllly slooooowly, too. It was about the worst year and a half of my life! Not just figuratively, but quite literally: I was bankrupt, I got fired after less than a month from a job I had waited for almost a year to get, my band lost another drummer, I had the worst fight ever with my best friend (we were on the phone screaming at each other for SEVEN HOURS, lol!), I got evicted not just once but twice, I had to get rid of one of my dogs because he killed the neighbor's cat, me and all my pets nearly literally froze to death because the furnace broke in the dead of winter and I couldn't afford to fix it--you name it, almost every bad thing you could think of happened to me in that year and a half.

And so after awhile I met this one guy online and he SURE didn't seem like the man of my dreams by any means, but I decided to go hang out with him for a weekend anyway. He was friendly enough, and very cute. I even asked one friend of mine who reads tarot if this guy was the guy my girlfriend had told me about and he said, "It doesn't look like it." I was like "ok whatever".

So I get back from my fun weekend with this bloke and I'm sort of disgruntled--not because I was upset about how things turned out, but because I was angry about the prediction my friend Nella (not her real name) had made. "Ok! It's been a year and a half, and this definitely isn't the man of my dreams, ok? YOU'RE FULL OF SH!T, NELLA!" (I didn't actually tell her that, but I was sure thinking it.)

Two days after I got back from my trip, a guy started sending me IMs; he had got my add off a website that we both belonged to. We started chatting a lot, and after a few more days we started talking on the phone. We talk on the phone almost every day now, and have done so for over a year. We've met in person several times and if things go right, we'll get a place together at some point. I have been in love before and have had relationships before--lots of em--but I have never known someone like this, and I feel something that I've never felt before, with anybody: I feel humble that I actually know this man, that I can say he is my friend, and that he cares about me. It is an exhilarating feeling like awe--like being on top of a mountain, or looking at the planets and stars.

What if you knew that you were going to meet your soulmate in a year and a half, or two years...? Couldn't you wait that long? (P.S. I have known a couple of guys who were as short as you and had girls all over them. It's a matter of perspective. As one of them used to say: "It don't matter how tall you are when you're layin down!")

And again: I want to congratulate you for fixing up your profile the way you did. yours in Chaos, Scarlett

thank you very much for that! it will make me think about it in a differnt way now!

..perhaps the friend should view your site and give you a prediction..

Roco

how can you judge him, when you dont know the whole story. of his issue why he couldnt be emotionally supportive.. you cant call him a looser

whoaaaaaaaaaaaa whoaaaaaaa!!! stop right there!!! You are looking for a wife!!! You are not looking for someone you spontaneously fall in love with..........you are lookiing for property!!!

Hey, might want to learn to walk before you try to run in the relationship category. Married is a mountain to climb and you have to learn to negotiate the bunny slopes. How about deleteing the whine about Mommy dearest and accepting the fact that you are who you are maybe not raveingly confident or tall but never the less a friendly guy with a good job and hobbies that you have to tell people about if they are going to find any common ground with you. Re-center or replace the the snaps so they don't look like you are recently rejected by and Ex. If you are serious about someone being interested you have to sell them on you not the cats! Do something in your photo's. Do you cook, garden, play video games, dance, camp out? Surely you don't sleep in your car. This isn't auto trader so there really isn't a need to show your car unless you want to have some gal who wants to drive your car and not you.