once again nuttin,dam

How does that tune go? Somthing like, another one bites the dust

yes, I believe it does...

Shadow, I'll give you one guy's perspective from the other side.

I appreciate a nice pic of a girl in a bikini or shorts. There's a sort of a naturalness to it, a sort of a "you might see her like this on any given day if you were walking on the beach" or whatever.

But when I see the underwear shots, or the "let's see how close I can get my boobs to the camera" (especially when you can't even see anything of her face) is just a turnoff. Smacks of a level of desperation that borders on (or maybe even surpasses) pathetic. As if she is saying she really has nothing else to put out there, and this is her sole method for getting noticed.

She may have a nice body, and that's great, but I'm really not going to be interested until I ascertain that there's something upstairs. And, based on the twenty-six billion dating site profiles I've read in my life, either most of them DON'T have anything upstairs, or they just never learned how to put it into words.

The best body in the world isn't going to get more than a moment's notice from me if she's got the brain of a tree shrew....

She may have a nice body, and that's great, but I'm really not going to be interested until I ascertain that there's something upstairs. And, based on the twenty-six billion dating site profiles I've read in my life, either most of them DON'T have anything upstairs, or they just never learned how to put it into words.

The thing besids datting sites, people end up showing who they really are with in time, but alot of the time, it when they first open there mouth, but back to how people prosent themselves is how some will see them for who they are. I have no interest in women need to put themselves out there. it's bad enough that more then half the time i can't even get a converstaion out of most of the women that i have got emails from. To be honest here and sorry ladies for this. But i find most a wast of time that i have met and relized that many have no clue on life what so ever.

sure its nice to know a guy has a great body but when they put them up on here no go..... I want to know the guy for his personality sense of humor and brains before i get him nakedwink tongue tongue

thats what i was saying.... if there is nothing upstairs then you got to go...kinda harsh but i need someone who is stimulating and keep a conversation going, not just be eye candy

Nope, I think it is SLEEZY! Those pics shouldn't be used in a profile when you are trying to attract a quality woman, we don't go for the pimps and playa's. If you are a quality guy and have a nice body, then you know it and you don't need to flaunt it as your only means of attracting a woman...

Exactly -- but trying to find someone like that where I live is like trying to find an aluminum three-toed sloth that also serves as a toaster oven....

lmao..... sure I could be very shallow and date guys strickly based on their looks... did that when i was younger but now I need substance and good chemistry... thats the problem i have with the boys I seem to attract....All looks and thats it

I think that is with Women/Men to many people are looking for looks and wonder latter donwn the line if they hook up and say, i wounder why this didn't work.

I gross myself out shirtless, so no

granted, i would so love to meet someone who has all the factors i am looking for, but that is not the case....So for now it's the hot dumb ones or the geeky smart ones...I find now in my life I like the geeky ones better though... They are not jaded and cocky

granted, i would so love to meet someone who has all the factors i am looking for, but that is not the case....So for now it's the hot dumb ones or the geeky smart ones...I find now in my life I like the geeky ones better though... They are not jaded and cocky

sorry i stuttered.......

We get the point

If I wanted porn there are better pics out there. Becides it appears that they are more in love with themself and no one could love them as much as they love themself.

Lex, you are so wonderful with your words as usual.

Thank you, I try!

I think of it as a sort of "let's lay all the cards on the table" kind of thing. There are threads, each and every day, relating, in one way or another, to this "communications gap" between the genders. "Why do all men______?" and "Why are all women ______?"

My position has always been that this gap doesn't need to exist at all, if people would just stop playing stupid games and realize that we are ALL different people, with different hopes and dreams and needs and likes and dislikes, and that, if it isn't OK to talk about this stuff, life is going to be obstructed by a continuous series of roadblocks preventing any sort of progress in finding someone to deal with.

What I like about Shadow is he will never shy away from raising this sort of topic. It needs to be raised. Timidity, tiptoeing around the subject, walking on proverbial eggshells, none of that is going to get us where we want to be.