my daughter is 25yrs old with 3kids and going through a divorce, she is already in a gay relationship, which doesnt bother me, but the problem is she has only known her gf maybe 4months and there talking about getting married (like next month) my daughter is stubborn and doesnt want to wait for anything. she wont listen to anyone, she getting her life on track, and now this, and i told her she doesnt want to mess things up, so i dont know what to do anymore. before she got married to her soon to be ex hubby(and father of her kids) we told her not to and his mom even stated that she didnt see them lasting a year. and she was right. i have always tried to stand behind her, and i want to see her happy, but i really feel that she needs to wait.

There is only one way that they will learn....the hard way.

dont try and control her or she will reject ur opinion, support her at all cost

im not controling her, i dont do that, and yea i know she needs to learn the hard way, she did that with her kids father(soon to be ex hubby)

We all have made bad choices hun. Unfortunatley . Just love them both

she was with her kids father off and on for 10yrs. it took her that long to find out the hard way... i want her to be happy, but i wish she would listen for once and not act like her own father...

the hard part about this is that at 25 (which is how old i am) we sort of feel like weve seen it all and know what were doing, and more often then not mom is right when we swore we knew she wasnt. Sit her down and make sure she knows beyond a shadow of a doubt that this isnt about her sexuality...im sure you would be feeling the same if she were jumping into things with a man. She may not be thinking things through because she feels a sense of freedom from the obligations of a marriage she was never too thrilled about staying in to begin with. Explain to her how you feel and share something private about your own life with her. Maybe something she doesnt even know but she may end up relating better to you if she knows that you arent perfect either. Good luck and Gods love.

Maybe her happiness doesn t come from parental protection or your desires. But I realize your a mom and love her.

This is true...

why do you think she was never thrilled about staying in her marriage.. thats not true, there was alot of issue.so you cant really say that

Unfortunately, alot of us have to go through the "school of hard knocks" before we finally start making the right choices. Let her learn the hard way. You told her how you feel and that's about all you can do, cause she's going to do what she wants with or without your blessing. And you never know, maybe this time things will work out. Stranger things have happened.

school of hard knocks is one of her fav quots and its true.. she had her son at 14 2months before she turned 15 had her daughter at 17, she graduated the day before her daughter was born and she graduated 1yr early went to college for a short time even studied criminal justice, and she finally got married to the kids dad, and month after they got married she found out she was pg with my youngest granddaughter she now 2/2yrs old and she been separated for over a yr.. she filed for the divorce but she has to redo the paper work again im not sure why

How can she remarry so soon if she is not legally divorced?

believe it or not its a common reaction within 2 years of divorce. Most haven t healed.

it wont be a legal marriage its only going to be a ceremony, for oregon doesnt allow gay marriages, unless they change it

If it is not a legal marriage then why worry?

it would be legal if they change it between now and then.

between now and next month?