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Topic: Older or Younger?
BobbyJ Joined Fri 02/22/08 Posts: 1368	Sun 09/14/08 08:41 AM
As a man and speaking from experience (I've been with women 20 years younger and up to 7 years older), there is a major difference with age. It's called life's experiences. People far different in age are not only on a different page in life, but their experiences (familiarity with same music, events, memories, etc.) is just not there. I have found that 5 years, either way from my own age is best. More than 5 years, good luck because at some point the differences will break things up. Those who say age isn't important will learn how important it is when they see how temporary the greater age differences make a relationship.

LightVoice Joined Thu 08/09/07 Posts: 7405	Sun 09/14/08 08:41 AM
i'd rather have sex with a guy that i'm in love with his age, his experience, his size, his stamina, his anything, do not ever take the place of his love for me, or my love for him. THAT is what makes sex great AMEN sista

IamMewhoRU Joined Tue 11/27/07 Posts: 5814	Sun 09/14/08 08:42 AM
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papersmile Joined Fri 10/12/07 Posts: 5148	Sun 09/14/08 08:44 AM
Aww...Paper is so sweet haha, no i am NOT!! (don't ruin my reputation, kk?)

oldsage Joined Thu 09/14/06 Posts: 18043	Sun 09/14/08 08:45 AM
Age is totally a mental thing, in my opinion. In the past 11 yrs, I have dated much younger & older. If the person has the proper spirit & we enjoy doing things together, that is what I am interested in. I am not seeking long term commitments or anything like that. Good friendships, enjoyable dates/trips/conversations, are what is important. Like to learn about people in all walks of life. Been known to do some unusual things, just for the fun of doing. Feel great pity for those that need a pill to enjoy life, because age has nothing to do with that. So never put pass ona date because of age, you might get a nice surprise.

maryelizabeth10 Joined Sat 08/16/08 Posts: 2826	Sun 09/14/08 08:46 AM
since we are talking about older and younger can i ask a question? how come some guys who are older than a young woman take advantage of them? whats the reasoning for that? no i dont mean all do it but some do and i dont get why so since we are on that subject someone enlighten me please

MisKim323 Joined Sat 06/28/08 Posts: 14563	Sun 09/14/08 08:49 AM
i'd rather have sex with a guy that i'm in love with his age, his experience, his size, his stamina, his anything, do not ever take the place of his love for me, or my love for him. THAT is what makes sex great

oldsage Joined Thu 09/14/06 Posts: 18043	Sun 09/14/08 08:50 AM
I think people ALLOW themselves to be taken advantage of. There are always warning signs. Maybe there is a need to slow down & learn more about the other person, before allowing your heart to take a journey. I have allowed myself to be used, but have always realized; I knew it from the start, just ignored the warning signs.

LightVoice Joined Thu 08/09/07 Posts: 7405	Sun 09/14/08 08:51 AM
As a man and speaking from experience (I've been with women 20 years younger and up to 7 years older), there is a major difference with age. It's called life's experiences. People far different in age are not only on a different page in life, but their experiences (familiarity with same music, events, memories, etc.) is just not there. I have found that 5 years, either way from my own age is best. More than 5 years, good luck because at some point the differences will break things up. Those who say age isn't important will learn how important it is when they see how temporary the greater age differences make a relationship. Normally I would agree with you whole heartedly... which is why all my relationships were in my age range. And it is also the reason I almost missed out on the relationship I am in (which would have been the biggest mistake of my life). Yet.. I have found the exception to the norm... while he is younger, there have been no hiccups in the wide range of things we share & discuss... and as we have been a part of each other's life for a year already, I am very confident in stating that the biological age difference does not affect our relationship. Am I saying it will be the same for everyone? No Am I changing my tune to say, at least see if it works before you walk away? Yes Am I now supporting the stance of, is it possible that age makes no difference? Yes

RKISIT Joined Tue 01/08/08 Posts: 16721	Sun 09/14/08 08:52 AM
since we are talking about older and younger can i ask a question? how come some guys who are older than a young woman take advantage of them? whats the reasoning for that? no i dont mean all do it but some do and i dont get why so since we are on that subject someone enlighten me please same reason young women take advantage of older men,cause they are good at what they do

BobbyJ Joined Fri 02/22/08 Posts: 1368	Sun 09/14/08 08:58 AM
As a man and speaking from experience (I've been with women 20 years younger and up to 7 years older), there is a major difference with age. It's called life's experiences. People far different in age are not only on a different page in life, but their experiences (familiarity with same music, events, memories, etc.) is just not there. I have found that 5 years, either way from my own age is best. More than 5 years, good luck because at some point the differences will break things up. Those who say age isn't important will learn how important it is when they see how temporary the greater age differences make a relationship. Normally I would agree with you whole heartedly... which is why all my relationships were in my age range. And it is also the reason I almost missed out on the relationship I am in (which would have been the biggest mistake of my life). Yet.. I have found the exception to the norm... while he is younger, there have been no hiccups in the wide range of things we share & discuss... and as we have been a part of each other's life for a year already, I am very confident in stating that the biological age difference does not affect our relationship. Am I saying it will be the same for everyone? No Am I changing my tune to say, at least see if it works before you walk away? Yes Am I now supporting the stance of, is it possible that age makes no difference? Yes I know this will sound awful to many, but face the facts. The older man or woman in a much older/younger romance will one day realize after looking in the mirror that the wrinkles do matter! The younger person will eventually take note and make an exit! I won't say outright that it can't work, but probability says it wont. That's human nature. That's life!

Fade2Black Joined Mon 10/08/07 Posts: 50752	Sun 09/14/08 09:00 AM
i'd rather have sex with a guy that i'm in love with his age, his experience, his size, his stamina, his anything, do not ever take the place of his love for me, or my love for him. THAT is what makes sex great How true is that .. It just happens that it's younger guys I've been in love with for past 5 years

oldsage Joined Thu 09/14/06 Posts: 18043	Sun 09/14/08 09:03 AM
Bobby, sorry to disagree, but I know many relationships, with over a 5 yrs age differance, that are still going yrs. later. Gwen & I had a 7 yr differance & it worked just fine. Personal approach to age, IS the whole story. If age is that important for you, so be it. If I made age a factor, I would have missed some GREAT life experiences. JMO

taboo365 Joined Thu 08/23/07 Posts: 2999	Sun 09/14/08 09:04 AM
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Fade2Black Joined Mon 10/08/07 Posts: 50752	Sun 09/14/08 09:08 AM
As a man and speaking from experience (I've been with women 20 years younger and up to 7 years older), there is a major difference with age. It's called life's experiences. People far different in age are not only on a different page in life, but their experiences (familiarity with same music, events, memories, etc.) is just not there. I have found that 5 years, either way from my own age is best. More than 5 years, good luck because at some point the differences will break things up. Those who say age isn't important will learn how important it is when they see how temporary the greater age differences make a relationship. That's exactly why I DO like dating younger. I just don't think like my age. I don't get into all the stuff people my age do. Take rock music for example. Most guys my age are into classic rock which is cool BUT I love the new rock as well. I had one guy my age tell me .. "oh, so you like your kids music" .. NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO I like MY music .. I don't see it as my 'kids' it's who I AM .. not my kids ..

IamMewhoRU Joined Tue 11/27/07 Posts: 5814	Sun 09/14/08 09:26 AM


Jules0565 Joined Fri 06/06/08 Posts: 4485	Sun 09/14/08 09:31 AM
My ex husband was 9yrs older than me. I've dated 6yrs older and 3 years younger. I think I agree with the 5 year either way difference..that works for me. Any younger I find they want children, I am 43 and done with that so we wouldn't be compatible.

BobbyJ Joined Fri 02/22/08 Posts: 1368	Sun 09/14/08 09:39 AM
Bobby, sorry to disagree, but I know many relationships, with over a 5 yrs age differance, that are still going yrs. later. Gwen & I had a 7 yr differance & it worked just fine. Personal approach to age, IS the whole story. If age is that important for you, so be it. If I made age a factor, I would have missed some GREAT life experiences. JMO Okay, allow me to correct myself from 5 years to 10 years. I'm dating a woman 9 years younger than me now! Oops, and yes, it is working out very, very well.

Fade2Black Joined Mon 10/08/07 Posts: 50752	Sun 09/14/08 09:43 AM
My ex husband was 9yrs older than me. I've dated 6yrs older and 3 years younger. I think I agree with the 5 year either way difference..that works for me. Any younger I find they want children, I am 43 and done with that so we wouldn't be compatible. When you're an adult 5 years is like the same age. My last BF which lasted 3 years was 28 years younger than me. I honestly forgot the age difference most of the time. Once I fell in love that was all they wrote. And not all guys want children..