OK here's my story.
Just over a month ago one of my neighbors caught his wife cheating on him... aside from many other things she already did and didn't do that would piss him off. He always complained she didn't do anything around the house, didn't take care of their daughter, etc etc. I don't know how much of that is fact since I didn't witness any of it. I do know she did cheat, she admitted that. Finally the cheating was enough and he filed for a divorce. He got the papers, giving him sole custody of their daughter and all the possesions. She signs the papers WITHOUT reading them. She would have 30 days to get out once the papers went thru the court, as a non contested divorce. She begged and pleaded with him to give her another chance.... So he told her he would give her a few weeks and see how it went to whether or not he would file the papers. She literally never brought it up again. So 2 weeks went by and he took the papers to court, and filed for the divorce. Since it was non contested and she signed it, she wasn't required to appear in court. They even put it in the newpaper when the divorce was finalized.
She never knew she was divorced.
Everyone on the block knew. Her "friends" all knew. Her step son knew. I admit, I knew too and so did my neighbor. The mailman even knew. It seems that all of us decided that none of us was going to tell her she was divorced and had 30 days to leave.
So today is the 31st day and her now Ex Husband handed her the papers, told her that her 30 days was up. She had to pack a bag and call someone to come get her.
Is it justice or just plain cruel? Was I wrong not to tell her?

wow.... what a story... were you a friend or just a friendly neighbor????

its only right that she should be informed,not telling her would be plain mean.

you are alive!!!!!!

only for today,then im gone for another month.

honestly, she is / was more friends with my neighbor than me. Personally, I never cared for her. I have always been civil to her and nice but I never considered her my friend. We never did stuff together or anything like that. If she was there I would chat with her.

Jill there is no one answer for this?? It is their life and they have to deal with it,,, I think it is best to stay out of thing's like that unless asked by one or both party's????

well then I would say it's really not your responsibility to tell her

Honestly I just didn't feel it was my place to go and tell her she was divorced or getting divorced. Kinda the job of her husband in my opinion...

I know lol I couldn't have made this up if I tried I couldn't believe it happened

well very good to see you

Being that she was just your neighbor, I really don't think it was your place to say anything. Her friend on the other hand, should have at least hinted around about it to give her a little heads up.


I just find it weird though that everyone in the entire neighborhood knew about it except her. Do you think that maybe she might be one of those people that trick themselves into believing that as long as they don't say anything or never bring up the subject again, that the other person will never follow through and everything will be just as it was? And then when it actually does happen, they just look at the other person dumbfounded, like "I can't believe you actually did it!"

I've known people like that and it just amazes me how they really think that way of thinking is going to keep the situation "as is" so that they can continue with their behavior.

I'm not sure if she just in total denial or really just didn't know ... ???

It's called karma and it's a biotch!!!!!

I kinda considered it Karma myself... and who am I to go and interfere with Karma??

I think that this woman was INSANE to sign court documents that impacted her life and the lives of her children. I think that alone says it all.

With everything else, it sounds as though she did not know because she didn't want to. I feel badly for the kids.

You'd have to have been in that home 24/7 after the papers were signed to even know what actually took place between the signing and the "dimissal", much less evaluate it or have any responsibility in it. Maybe you would even need to know much more about the situation before the filing took place.

Please don't stress over this - you had no responsibility there!

HE IS MY HERO:glasses

She signed it, should have read it & kept a copy.

Her problem.

(((Jill))) it's not yours or anyone else's responsibility to tell her things that impact her life that SHE signed for.. Her husband really should have said "hey the dates is coming up soon" so I'd say he could have been a little more compassionate.. And she did know b/c she begged for another chance... If you're getting another chance and you're paying attention, you know if things aren't going so great and if you don't you should ask... only YOU are responsible for YOU unless your a child of course... SHE got just what she asked for NOTHING...