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Topic: Can someone pls explain
Italy0219 Joined Sun 12/02/07 Posts: 2523	Fri 08/29/08 06:23 PM
why it is when I am with someone I feel more lonely than when I am unattached? I am sure there is some psychological reason behind it, but it keeps me from getting too close...

moofooga Joined Thu 01/31/08 Posts: 25515	Fri 08/29/08 06:25 PM
i go through the same thing. i feel oddly hollowed-out inside when i shouldn't be. and yeah- it's kept me from having a long-term relationship.

Tankk Joined Tue 03/11/08 Posts: 1450	Fri 08/29/08 06:25 PM
The person you're with is sucking the life out of you?

RKISIT Joined Tue 01/08/08 Posts: 16721	Fri 08/29/08 06:26 PM
its called a comfort zone,you feel more secure alone chatting on here than actually wanting to get off your a$$ and go outside your front door. prodigy ,smack my b!tch up

Dangerous_Kitchen Joined Mon 06/02/08 Posts: 2897	Fri 08/29/08 06:27 PM
are you dating... Dr. Acula?

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32402	Fri 08/29/08 06:27 PM
its called a comfort zone,you feel more secure alone chatting on here than actually wanting to get off your a$$ and go outside your front door. prodigy ,smack my b!tch up Okay, you're trying to get me hot, aren't you?

Sweetnshy47 Joined Tue 01/15/08 Posts: 1261	Fri 08/29/08 06:27 PM
why it is when I am with someone I feel more lonely than when I am unattached? I am sure there is some psychological reason behind it, but it keeps me from getting too close... When you find the answer let me know ,I can relate.

Hajimemashite Joined Thu 08/28/08 Posts: 4031	Fri 08/29/08 06:28 PM
Fear of being hurt Again comes into mind here . You keep your distance to feel safe . But this is just my point of view . But you already know why you do it And what you need to over come

No1sLove Joined Wed 04/16/08 Posts: 10342	Fri 08/29/08 06:28 PM
If when you are with someone and feel like you'd rather be alone, I'm going to guess you are dating the wrong guys?

PATSFAN Joined Mon 12/10/07 Posts: 42782	Fri 08/29/08 06:28 PM
Nothing more than feelings

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32402	Fri 08/29/08 06:29 PM
why it is when I am with someone I feel more lonely than when I am unattached? I am sure there is some psychological reason behind it, but it keeps me from getting too close... Sounds like you have some issues you may need to work out before you start dating again. I know I did. You want to date, but the reality is you are scared. OR you are dating the wrong guy and you just have to wait until that one comes along that makes you feel whole.

maxxximus007 Joined Mon 11/13/06 Posts: 6082	Fri 08/29/08 06:29 PM
why it is when I am with someone I feel more lonely than when I am unattached? I am sure there is some psychological reason behind it, but it keeps me from getting too close... ??????????????????????????

Italy0219 Joined Sun 12/02/07 Posts: 2523	Fri 08/29/08 06:29 PM
its called a comfort zone,you feel more secure alone chatting on here than actually wanting to get off your a$$ and go outside your front door. prodigy ,smack my b!tch up I beg your pardon, I can party like a rock star...no really I get up off my ass alot...all the time infact, I just get involved with someone and get irritated that I am connected with that person....

BobbyJ Joined Fri 02/22/08 Posts: 1368	Fri 08/29/08 06:29 PM
It seems that you haven't been communicating with the persons you've been with on an intimate level. If you have things deep inside of you that you want to discuss, you should feel comfortable enough with the person you're with to do that. When you can, you feel more connected with that person and you no longer feel alone.

RKISIT Joined Tue 01/08/08 Posts: 16721	Fri 08/29/08 06:29 PM
its called a comfort zone,you feel more secure alone chatting on here than actually wanting to get off your a$$ and go outside your front door. prodigy ,smack my b!tch up Okay, you're trying to get me hot, aren't you? of course if i dont then im not doing my job as a man hope it wasnt too cassanova?

Sweetnshy47 Joined Tue 01/15/08 Posts: 1261	Fri 08/29/08 06:31 PM
its called a comfort zone,you feel more secure alone chatting on here than actually wanting to get off your a$$ and go outside your front door. prodigy ,smack my b!tch up I beg your pardon, I can party like a rock star...no really I get up off my ass alot...all the time infact, I just get involved with someone and get irritated that I am connected with that person.... And fear of getting smacked down?

SkyHook5652 Joined Sat 08/23/08 Posts: 4063	Fri 08/29/08 06:32 PM
why it is when I am with someone I feel more lonely than when I am unattached? I am sure there is some psychological reason behind it, but it keeps me from getting too close... Here's my "pop psych" evaluation: You're expecting something from the relationship that you're not getting and are disappointed by that. When you're alone, you're not expecting anything and so there is no disappointment.

Italy0219 Joined Sun 12/02/07 Posts: 2523	Fri 08/29/08 06:32 PM
why it is when I am with someone I feel more lonely than when I am unattached? I am sure there is some psychological reason behind it, but it keeps me from getting too close... Here's my "pop psych" evaluation: You're expecting something from the relationship that you're not getting and are disappointed by that. When you're alone, you're not expecting anything and so there is no disappointment. Yeah that makes sense.....

RKISIT Joined Tue 01/08/08 Posts: 16721	Fri 08/29/08 06:33 PM
its called a comfort zone,you feel more secure alone chatting on here than actually wanting to get off your a$$ and go outside your front door. prodigy ,smack my b!tch up I beg your pardon, I can party like a rock star...no really I get up off my ass alot...all the time infact, I just get involved with someone and get irritated that I am connected with that person.... why just look at him and say no games, if you play games than no pssy,your a woman you have pssy power use it.

Wonderbread Joined Wed 12/13/06 Posts: 5587	Fri 08/29/08 06:33 PM
thats why i just stay single. that and im not hot or rich.