OK, so this is about virtual sex? lol When they invent the holodeck, I'm in. And I mean MOVED in.

I'm as uninhibited as a guy can be so I'd say if you doing it, do it with gusto. But I'd suggest at home, with a physical body (or 2) aside from your own. Sexual ettiquette sounds like you're doing it at the country club. Lucky you.

Online titillation seems to enable testing each other's acceptance and interest. It helps to explore in words (which men like me need) the romantic milieu in which the each person feels comfort or excitement, and their limits.

This is a good thing. This verbalization/writing is customarily off limits, and that taboo creates disappointments by stifling communication.

Now...with webcams, I believe that they should be used at least once to verify the actuality of each person. In no way would I advance into cyber-eroticity with anyone whom I had not seen and talked to by phone.
JMO

It's all a matter of what you want. I prefer to actually be able to touch and feel the man in my bed as opposed to sitting at a desk watching him. But then again I am a touchy feely kinda woman.