Lots of complaints about guys who spit out juvenile sex email & chats
like flies to a fresh turd. Complaints are very appropriate. And while
we're on it, there's also the inverse problem - no replies from ladies
when the emails are polite and friendly.

Ok, this sounds like "poor me", but, is it because too many perv's are
swamping ladies? and so we're all lumped into a box? or just that guys
(like me) just aren't hitting the right mark?

In other words, is the lack of reply because of Me? caused by my
'brothers' who can only think with their d1ck, or, just discourteous
women who dont bother to reply with even a 'get lost'?

Aww, Mike, I would reply to your mail. Haven't sent me any emails.
Startin to feel left out here. LOL

well there is a lot of that going on mike but would never make me think
that others are that way would not stop me from emailing etc..

Mike, I think it's some of both, in different ratios, for different
people. The "bad" guys make it harder for the "good" ones all the way
around.

I've had JSH ladies e-mail me and say, "I like the fact that you're
never disrespectful of the women on the site." They notice these
things.

I never e-mail anybody first. I just don't do it, because there's that
image in my mind of someone seeing something in their inbox, thinking
"Oh no, here's another rude solicitation from some horny jerk." And if
they've never read my posts, there's a possibility they might think
that.

So I just don't put anyone in that position. And I get a lot of
e-mails, regardless. Maybe because everybody who e-mails me, has seen
something of what I've written in the forums, and they've gotten to see
into my thought processes a little bit. I don't know.

My thinking is that the forums are really the only way for anyone to get
to know people here. The profiles are inherently limited to what you
can put on one page, so the forums are the way to expand on that.

I think the ladies here want to see who's a "perv" and who's not, look
at the forums to get some ideas about that -- and maybe after getting a
dozen rude e-mails from idiots, they just don't want to be bothered
anymore. It's sad, but understandable. Maybe they don't even bother to
read the 13th one....so of course, there's no reply.

Bottom line, like I said before, the "bad" ones are messing it up for
everybody else.

Honestly, maybe some people don't check their emails that often? I am
one of those people...I had an email sitting in my box for days and I
finally got it! Its not that I didn't want to answer it, its just that I
don't check emails every day. I have had the flu, so some people do have
reasons for not answering emails.
There are some naughty guys on here, but I do believe the women know by
now who the good ones are! Its not just women who don't answer emails
back either..so it does work both ways you know

I hope you are feeling better, unsure. I guess I should consider myself
one of the lucky ones as to not have received any ignorant emails, yet!!
Everyone who has contacted me has been very nice & polite. But I am new.
I think the ignore/block feature would solve that problem.

Mike i agree with you but i personally find them highly amusing and
can't resist playing.LOL It's always fun to pick on the children you
know.

Mike,

You strike me (from your forum posts) as the kind of person who could
have an interesting conversation with most women on many different
topics. I've emailed over a dozen women on this site -mostly to get
their opinions/thoughts about something- and almost all of them
responded positively. The conversations end (and restart) naturally,
but i found the women (especially those who participate in the forums)
to be very open, approachable, and polite.

Oh. Hmmm..... I'm suprised at the replies. I really expected to hear
"yeah well all the azzholes have spoiled it", but, instead it sounds
like I need to ramp up my spam-generators. Watch out world, here comes a
spam-generatin-love-machine!

Gaurd your inboxes closely!

I don't get the non-responce thing either. I've even responded to a
couple @$$ holes but it was at least a responce. I figure when you
become part of a community like this, you are putting yourself "out
there" in that community. While it's a very small sector of this big
community that participates in the chats, they are still here for the
same reason, social participation. So I don't know why folks would not
respond. If after reading an email one decides they're not
interested, the least they can do is say 'thanks for the email, but not
interested'. After all they invited the email by posting their profile.
aghhh - poeple!

i think it is both.
i attempt to reply to everyone.

Nice post Mike, been wondering this myself.
Don’t know about this one but on some sites gals do get flooded with
emails. On this system you can see if the message has been read; not
responding cause it’s not read is a very small portion. I’m thinking
folks are afraid or intimidated to send a thanks-but-no-thanks note
back. It’s like turning somebody down and unless you are a masochists a
rejection is uncomfortable on both sides. Even so, something in
response would be nice.

I personally respond to all the e-mails, even just to thank but no
thanks, think it is rude not to. If they are naked pictures, then I
block and report abuse, told one guy to get lost and got cussed out, so
just block now and report abuse. Guess I learned my lesson on nude
pictures.

But think it is only fair to answer the e-mails and acknowledge
receiving them but that you are not interested.

Truth is, my picture is of my grandkids, and a bunch of the guys
responding think it is of me, hello - I am 55, don't think so, so I
politely tell them I am 55 and the picture is my grandkids and funny,
they don't write back.

Your profile just showed me why. Meaning NO disrespect but your
seperated and personally i DONT do married or SEPERATED men. Sorry but i
just dont.

Okay Mike- Every time I answer an IM or email and I attempt to tell the
person NO, not interested he continues to attempt to convince me I am.
For instance, I have on my profile age 35-48. I get emails and IMs from
guys younger, some a lot younger. They say age is only a number. Okay
for them it is for me it is not. Goals are different, experiences are
different, what you expect is different etc. It is ongoing no matter
what your reply. I once asked a guy about why men cannot take no for an
answer. He told me that no ment maybe if I push a little harder etc. He
told me that if you communicate you open the door, if you do not answer
it means No.

nurjoyce did you take your pretty lil foot, insert it into his keester
and show him the door as you gave him the big HEAVE HO for NO!!!

Cool insight Joyce (although not all guys think like that), I've always
been like Mike (not Jordon) in that I'd get a little ticked when a girl
would open the email and wouldn't reply.

Some of us do take hints though, a short "Thanks but No Thanks" or "I'm
not into your type (for whatever reason)" is cool with me. I have
several friends on my list like that (nothing wrong with friends, after
all Terry, Glenn and several other guys are on my list and it's not like
any of us want anything to happen...although Glenn's made some rather
large finacial offers to spend the night with my Phone)

Thanks for letting us know how ya think ladies....

just letting you know by experience

well said

Nice Pic Roses (Glad to FINALLY see you )