I agree with u 100% daniel, thats like saying well your a serial killer
but maybe u just need someone to talk to. Well you have raped 10 girls
but hey maybe u just need help. People are people not everyone is
perfect but if they have a problem and if they have gotten help in the
past, some people just are just not help able. And then again some
people dont want the help, and sometimes people get help and than they
contiune on wiht their lives

who came up with this word deadbeat. evryone has a purpose, everyone has
troubles, how you deal with them doesnt make you a dead beat it makes
you person who has made some poor choices. a son grows up and does what
he saw his dad do to his mom unless he makes a choice not an to seek
some help on how not to let that happen. now if he goes on gets married
and leaves his family he i geuss made a poor choice. insult them all you
want but they are people just like you are no better no worse and if
people would be more willing to help in stead of shout insults from
under the bleachers it might be a whole lot better. everyone can cry the
blues.

no thats were ur wrong, i am better than him coz i am the one who puts a
roof over my daughters head diapers forumla clothes and the most
important Uncondital love. And where is he knockin up another chick. he
is a deadbeat, sorry to say but ppl get help and they are still fuc*ed
in the head

im not saying what he did is right im just saying he is a person, just
like you, you are a person right? calling people deadbeats is just
lashing out with anger. your better than that you dont have to insult
him or anything do you, think about it

My oldest has lived with me since first grade, when his mom dropped him
off, and didn't come back for six months. I have always encouraged him
to spend time with her, which he has, but he still knows what went on
for the last ten years too. Kids figure it out on there own.
By the way, I always have to laugh when the first thing people bring up
is child support. She was ordered to pay me, and I told the judge I
didn't want it. She didn't have to pay, and I was happy with that. Why
would I want money from someone so they can think they did something?
Money doesn't make you a parent, being a parent does. I raised him, and
I watched and helped him become what he is today. I still think that was
the best choice I ever made to not take the support, why give her any of
the credit??

I have to agree inpart with you too.....
I accepted the child support cause iwas n welfare and was only receiving
450 a motnh cash. I needed it if she was gonna send it. I am not muvh
better now with only 700 a month gross, but hey I am working my way up.

brokenhomes, what you SEEM to have missed ( I will not say hyouh ave,
but it appears that way) is the fact that I have given y ex every
possible chance I could think of to get help for herself and to help her
see the children and she still CHOSE TO NOT ACCEPT!
Now, maybe the term deadbeat could be changed, I do not know or care,
but societies term for a parent that deos everything for themself and
nothing for the child is deadbeat so that is what I am using. Nothing
personal, against anyone including the absent parent. But that is the
accepted terminology of the day.

oh and the reason my ex gives me for still being with the abusive drug
adict/seller is that he has a big d!ck. Her own words. Now I am sorry
but personally she needs help. But she wont accept it, andmy hands are
tied where they are at.

oh so its the accepted term gosh we would hate to go agaist the majority
wouldnt we, and the parent your calling a deadbeat maybe had a deadbeat
parent so thats all he or she knows, all im saying is at some point
everyone needs help and as for be accepted im my own man i dont need no
majority to tell me how to speak, an granted i shouldnt try to tell yall
how to speak either its just i wish these guys or gals would step up to
the plate and do the right thing and if they dont know how then i wish
they would grab someone to them you know what im saying

after all the emotional stuff of divorce then you play the mean person.
always asking when. when are you giving money? when wiil the check
clear? when will the bills get paid? when are you picking them up? when
will you bring then back? i feel like my girls look at me like im never
happy with there dad. guess what, i tried to be and after fifteen years
i couldnt and he left for someone who was more fun. i stayed home to
take care of them, now i have no job history for many years. he got the
car and he got his children from a prevous marrige( dead beat mom ,
never found her again! and their is no other words for that) so now i
raised five girls and now i have mine but i still look like the loser
here. if he dosent feel like paying he dosen,t and im screwed, but if i
hold back visits im in trouble. so much crap and no shovel! how do you
get a court ordered support out of his check? thats my whole reason for
the long stupid story.

Hi brighteyes,
I have been in this situation for ever and the one thing I did was go to
the child support division. They had me fill out about 10 pages worth of
stuff and now they are trying to get the money. They finally succeed for
2 months and they garnshed his wages, so he has quit his job. But they
are at least trying to get something out of it. Also talk to the judge,
if he awarded you support, get them to take him back to court. Good
luck.

thats very tue mommy...
Not only that but most states now REQUIRE that checks be garnished. If
you go to the judge the judge will call him in. Ih he fails to show the
judge will order contempt and fill out a bench warrant to bring him in.
I do not know about other states but I do know with michigan you also
have "friend of court" which is ONLY for issues concerning children.
This is where you have to go in michigan to get the papers to fill out,
and to request a hearing with the judge.
My ex is looking at contempt of court right now, cause she ahs not paid
in so long and will not hold a job down.
Good luck hun.

I can understand were all of you are coming from. I have 3 kids from 2
different guys and I have never asked one of them for child support. I
know I would never get it any way. My son's "father" left when is was 2
years old and he is now 19 and in the Army. He is doing great just
having me and his sisters in his life. I told him when I knew he was
old enough to handle it the truth about his "father" about our
relationship and about why he left. I think when the kids are young you
dont bad mouth the "father" but you dont sugarcoat it either. When they
are old enough they deserve the truth no matter how good or bad. My son
is a better person for it today. My girls "father" I dont have to say
anything about him because my girls have lived it and know what kind of
a person he is. He makes promises to them and doesnt keep them and even
though they know how he is it still hurts them, but it is making them
stronger and hopefully make better choices of men than I did. I give
unconditional love to all 3 of my kids and its seems to be enough for
them.