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4 more days till I find the truth... 
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3 more days! hold me
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I hope that he turns out to be the guy you imagine he is. I will say that when people put out that they have it all together, then their is something that the REALLY don't want you to know. He could have his crap together financially, but mentally he might not. Or, he could be so close to being bankrupt that he doesn't want you to know about it, so he puts it off that he is a financially responsible guy. See what I am saying here?
I'm not saying that he is lying. I have no idea if he could be. You know more, and you just have to try and make the best choice possible for you. Like I said, I really do hope he turns out to be all you imagine. Best of luck to you. 
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I'm so frustrated at the moment... I've been talking to a guy on the phone and through email every day for 2 weeks. He's very busy running his own business, but he still finds time to talk to me a couple times a day. We haven't met yet because he lives 2 hours away from me and his days are very full. He left for vacation yesterday morning. On this 9 day vacation, he won't be on the phone or computer while he camps out on the coast with his 2 dogs. He plans to hike, relax, read books, and generally just escape any and all civilization as much as possible. I miss him like crazy already and I haven't even met the guy. He plans on calling me and driving to see me when he gets back. He says he's even bought me a few little gifts that reminded him of me. This guy is a great catch and really has his life together. With all that I know, all that I've been through already, and with how easy it is to lie online, how do I find the faith to believe this guy is for real? Would you just sit and wait for a week and a half, wondering if this guy is going to flake? He's all I've been able to think about and it's driving me nuts. It sucks being left in the dark. How can I get him off my mind enough to not go crazy, but enough to not forget him altogether? |
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thanks guys
I'm thinking his biggest flaw is not having enough time in his day for a significant other. He swears he'd make time if the right woman came along, but he's got the personality of my stepdad... always on the go, always busy with something... doesn't spend much time with the wifey. Which can be good and bad. I'd miss him a lot, but my schedule's so busy with full time school and taking care of my daughter full time now that I won't have much freedom either. Thanks everyone for your encouragement, and criticisms. It's all helpful! I'm still excited, but tired of waiting. bah! |
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Bottom line, It's an online thing until you meet.
The phone conversations only add fuel to the fire of deception. It's so easy to build an online image and reinforce it via phone conversations; then add to that it makes it harder to see through a possible facade that has been constructed. To me a Healthy dose of Pessimistic Skepticism is ALWAYS a good thing when it comes to talking to people over the internet..... Being a Dreamer only gets you stuck with losers for longer... Good Luck though..... |
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Girl you do not have a relationship. What you have is a fantasy. This guy could be married with 3 kids for all you know. He could be a freak or he might be a really cool dude. You just do not know. In fact all you really know about this guy is what he has told you. Hell he might be a fry cook at Burger King. What I’m saying is SLOW THE F%@K DOWN GIRLY. If it sounds like he is too good then..Well what do they say about things that sound to good to be true??????????
He has you so rapped up that you are probably afraid to ask the tough questions. You want him to be what he has lead you to believe. And you don’t want to frighten him off..Right????? |
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it's a jump - it always is when u meet someone on line.
Its so easy to get swept away with the excitment and having the attention paid to u, but i would say - and it's only my thoughts. Two weeks isn't that long to get to know someone...but u know how u feel, and 2 hours is not that long to drive if u want to see someone!!
good luck but keep ur eyes open for other guys as well dont shut ur self off just yet!!
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^^^^^^^^^
Y E P !!! |
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Girl you do not have a relationship. What you have is a fantasy. This guy could be married with 3 kids for all you know. He could be a freak or he might be a really cool dude. You just do not know. In fact all you really know about this guy is what he has told you. Hell he might be a fry cook at Burger King. What I’m saying is SLOW THE F%@K DOWN GIRLY. If it sounds like he is too good then..Well what do they say about things that sound to good to be true?????????? He has you so rapped up that you are probably afraid to ask the tough questions. You want him to be what he has lead you to believe. And you don’t want to frighten him off..Right????? 
I never said I had a relationship with this guy... we haven't met and we've only talked for 2 weeks!
I'm just excited to meet him... and to see if he's for real. THat's all.
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Edited by
guyguy1225
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Thu 08/21/08 02:21 AM
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Girl you do not have a relationship. What you have is a fantasy. This guy could be married with 3 kids for all you know. He could be a freak or he might be a really cool dude. You just do not know. In fact all you really know about this guy is what he has told you. Hell he might be a fry cook at Burger King. What I’m saying is SLOW THE F%@K DOWN GIRLY. If it sounds like he is too good then..Well what do they say about things that sound to good to be true?????????? He has you so rapped up that you are probably afraid to ask the tough questions. You want him to be what he has lead you to believe. And you don’t want to frighten him off..Right?????
I never said I had a relationship with this guy... we haven't met and we've only talked for 2 weeks!
I'm just excited to meet him... and to see if he's for real. THat's all.
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Girl you do not have a relationship. What you have is a fantasy. This guy could be married with 3 kids for all you know. He could be a freak or he might be a really cool dude. You just do not know. In fact all you really know about this guy is what he has told you. Hell he might be a fry cook at Burger King. What I’m saying is SLOW THE F%@K DOWN GIRLY. If it sounds like he is too good then..Well what do they say about things that sound to good to be true?????????? He has you so rapped up that you are probably afraid to ask the tough questions. You want him to be what he has lead you to believe. And you don’t want to frighten him off..Right?????
I never said I had a relationship with this guy... we haven't met and we've only talked for 2 weeks!
I'm just excited to meet him... and to see if he's for real. THat's all.
"I miss him like crazy already and I haven't even met the guy. He plans on calling me and driving to see me when he gets back. He says he's even bought me a few little gifts that reminded him of me. This guy is a great catch and really has his life together." Ok...well my mistake..sounded like a relationship. Good luck. |
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No, I'm not jumping ahead... I just get excited when I'm talking to someone new. I know better than to think I'm in love with someone when I haven't met them in person yet. I did that once and won't make the same mistake. I know that people are very different in person as opposed to online.
I just like to keep hope alive that there's compatible guys out there for me. That's all. Thank you for your concern... and your well wishes!
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well - if it were me i'd likely be vacationing near you
so we could meet and get to know one another. hmmm. maybe i am impatient.... but i digress. i'd say hang out with some old friends and/or make some new friends. don't get too caught up in any online thing until you actually meet. 
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Oh believe me, that thought has crossed my mind. But how self-absorbed does that make me to think after a guy has only talked to me for 2 weeks that he should change his vacation plans to fit me in his schedule?
Of course I've thought that maybe he's just not as into me as he lets on because of that... but I know that if I had a chance to escape everyone I knew for a peaceful vacation, I would do it in a heartbeat! So who am I to question? All of it is speculation... the hardest part is not knowing any of those answers. |
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yah - one of the annoying things about meeting online
i had two long term relationships from those i met online. in both instances we met in real life very soon after emeeting online. one started out as just a nice friendship - not a strong initial attraction and it lasted about a year and a half the other was like picante salsa muy picante. intense sexual attraction. mutual. it has lasted 14 years. both were local. those were the only two people i ever actually met through online "dating" so to speak... so my experience was unusually successful and in a sense also very limited. but that's the way it was.
it does not make you self absorbed at all. some vacation plans are more easily changed than others you just have to kind of reserve judgment while you hang out here and with your real life friends until you actually do get to meet and see if this is going anywhere further...
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