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Topic: Booty call vs Cuddle buddy
iRon Joined Tue 04/10/07 Posts: 2786	Mon 08/11/08 11:41 PM
I have come to the conclusion I am not wanting a deep, meaningful long term relationship what I want is a cuddle buddy and not a booty call. I am the kind of guy that likes/needs to have feelings for the girl I am sleeping with and having sexual relationship with, hence negating a booty call. See I like being signal but when it comes to bed time it sucks. A cuddle buddy is some you care about, be exclusive with but they are just there at night. Day time lives don't really intertwine. I don't care what she does for a living, how many hours she works, how much money she has, how much she travels or to meet your kids and I don't want her meeting mine. I don't want anybody tell me how to live my life, judging me, inflecting her insecurities on me or trying to be my mom. Cuddle buddy is someone you respect, know and feel safe with and if you are lucky maybe even like. A booty call has none of these qualites... So Am I crazy, I am in some illusion and just fooling myself or is this a possibility?

Jules0565 Joined Fri 06/06/08 Posts: 4485	Mon 08/11/08 11:43 PM
Uhh.. let me know what pops "up" after that first "cuddle"

whispertoascream Joined Fri 11/17/06 Posts: 22844	Mon 08/11/08 11:46 PM
Hmm not sure I could sleep with somebody that I did not have feelings for. Maybe a friend to cuddle with while watching a movie or something, Or to cuddle with while just shooting the sh1t. But do not think I could do the whole night thing. But hey that is just me.

iRon Joined Tue 04/10/07 Posts: 2786	Mon 08/11/08 11:47 PM
I think something might pop up right before the cuddle

littleredhen Joined Sat 01/12/08 Posts: 6837	Mon 08/11/08 11:47 PM
That's why I have a dog.

whispertoascream Joined Fri 11/17/06 Posts: 22844	Mon 08/11/08 11:48 PM
I think something might pop up right before the cuddle Well then here comes the blue balls.

kerbear73 Joined Wed 01/02/08 Posts: 3884	Mon 08/11/08 11:53 PM
Huuhuhuhhuhhu He said Booty Huhuhuhu

Down2earthdebbie Joined Tue 12/05/06 Posts: 6097	Mon 08/11/08 11:54 PM
You just haven't met the right one! What if she was hella cool & just let you be you no nagging & she made you happy all the time?

iRon Joined Tue 04/10/07 Posts: 2786	Mon 08/11/08 11:54 PM
I have a great life but every time I try a relationship they inject themselves to far, too deep and too quick into my life. Again the difference between a cuddle buddy and booty call is a booty call really don't work for me. A cuddle buddy you care about, your exclusive with and you even like...You spend time getting to know each other first but you don't let them into you day life.

Down2earthdebbie Joined Tue 12/05/06 Posts: 6097	Mon 08/11/08 11:57 PM
I have a great life but every time I try a relationship they inject themselves to far, too deep and too quick into my life. Again the difference between a cuddle buddy and booty call is a booty call really don't work for me. A cuddle buddy you care about, your exclusive with and you even like...You spend time getting to know each other first but you don't let them into you day life. Well to me that's just lik a Booty call & it would not work for mE then it would be your loss! Sometimes someone can add to your LIFE

iRon Joined Tue 04/10/07 Posts: 2786	Mon 08/11/08 11:58 PM
You just haven't met the right one! What if she was hella cool & just let you be you no nagging & she made you happy all the time? That would be way cool but I have not found that or anything close. i guess I want my cake and eat it too. However this is beneficial for both parties as she does not have to answer to a man. She lives her day life with out interference and has someone there at night....

iRon Joined Tue 04/10/07 Posts: 2786	Tue 08/12/08 12:02 AM Edited by iRon on Tue 08/12/08 12:04 AM
I have a great life but every time I try a relationship they inject themselves to far, too deep and too quick into my life. Again the difference between a cuddle buddy and booty call is a booty call really don't work for me. A cuddle buddy you care about, your exclusive with and you even like...You spend time getting to know each other first but you don't let them into you day life. Well to me that's just like a Booty call & it would not work for mE then it would be your loss! Sometimes someone can add to your LIFE I have not found that in anyway but that may say more about me than any women I have been with. A booty call is just sex. A cuddle buddy is someone you are safe with, you are exclusively sexually involved with and you hold each other and meet more emotional needs than just sexual ones......Big difference between a Booty call and a cuddle buddy.

redhead44613 Joined Fri 01/18/08 Posts: 12976	Tue 08/12/08 12:04 AM
I have come to the conclusion I am not wanting a deep, meaningful long term relationship what I want is a cuddle buddy and not a booty call. I am the kind of guy that likes/needs to have feelings for the girl I am sleeping with and having sexual relationship with, hence negating a booty call. See I like being signal but when it comes to bed time it sucks. A cuddle buddy is some you care about, be exclusive with but they are just there at night. Day time lives don't really intertwine. I don't care what she does for a living, how many hours she works, how much money she has, how much she travels or to meet your kids and I don't want her meeting mine. I don't want anybody tell me how to live my life, judging me, inflecting her insecurities on me or trying to be my mom. Cuddle buddy is someone you respect, know and feel safe with and if you are lucky maybe even like. A booty call has none of these qualites... So Am I crazy, I am in some illusion and just fooling myself or is this a possibility? deff not crazy...sounds like a good idea to me

Down2earthdebbie Joined Tue 12/05/06 Posts: 6097	Tue 08/12/08 12:04 AM
You just haven't met the right one! What if she was hella cool & just let you be you no nagging & she made you happy all the time? That would be way cool but I have not found that or anything close. i guess I want my cake and eat it too. However this is beneficial for both parties as she does not have to answer to a man. She lives her day life with out interference and has someone there at night.... Well if that works for you........that's a good thing! However my Man will look forward to coming home to mE ...he will miss my smell, my touch, my cooking, he won't be able to survive without mE! Haven't found him yet but, i'm working on iT!

IndnPrncs Joined Sun 11/04/07 Posts: 58420	Tue 08/12/08 12:04 AM
I have a great life but every time I try a relationship they inject themselves to far, too deep and too quick into my life. Again the difference between a cuddle buddy and booty call is a booty call really don't work for me. A cuddle buddy you care about, your exclusive with and you even like...You spend time getting to know each other first but you don't let them into you day life. iRon if you care and you're exclusive right there "sh^t" is gonna start.. Caring and exclusive do not go with "no committment and no bs" I mean maybe 1 in every 100 but banking on booty calls having less committment... jmho

redhead44613 Joined Fri 01/18/08 Posts: 12976	Tue 08/12/08 12:09 AM
You just haven't met the right one! What if she was hella cool & just let you be you no nagging & she made you happy all the time? That would be way cool but I have not found that or anything close. i guess I want my cake and eat it too. However this is beneficial for both parties as she does not have to answer to a man. She lives her day life with out interference and has someone there at night.... ah see a man who knows what a women wants lol. I dont want to answer to a man, just want him more as a friend that has sum "special" things that a reg friend does not get. you have a great idea

Gypsy41 Joined Tue 05/15/07 Posts: 123359	Tue 08/12/08 12:10 AM
Hmmmmmmmmm a cuddle buddy???? I dont know about you but if Im lying in bed cuddling.....I think the clothes would come off eventually and all sorts of dirty bad things could happen

iRon Joined Tue 04/10/07 Posts: 2786	Tue 08/12/08 12:12 AM
I have come to the conclusion I am not wanting a deep, meaningful long term relationship what I want is a cuddle buddy and not a booty call. I am the kind of guy that likes/needs to have feelings for the girl I am sleeping with and having sexual relationship with, hence negating a booty call. See I like being signal but when it comes to bed time it sucks. A cuddle buddy is some you care about, be exclusive with but they are just there at night. Day time lives don't really intertwine. I don't care what she does for a living, how many hours she works, how much money she has, how much she travels or to meet your kids and I don't want her meeting mine. I don't want anybody tell me how to live my life, judging me, inflecting her insecurities on me or trying to be my mom. Cuddle buddy is someone you respect, know and feel safe with and if you are lucky maybe even like. A booty call has none of these qualites... So Am I crazy, I am in some illusion and just fooling myself or is this a possibility? deff not crazy...sounds like a good idea to me Thanks....... See a A booty call as condition's of disrespect. Some guy or girl who is drunk and just failed at bar and as a last ditch effort come knocking on your door after bar time looking to get laid. A cuddle buddies would know when they are going to get together, it would be done sober unless you two got drunk together. Cuddle Buddies have conditions of respect and even caring. But the next day their life is their life without interference form anybody.

Tromette Joined Wed 08/06/08 Posts: 996	Tue 08/12/08 12:13 AM
Good luck asking someone to be exclusive with you and and also telling them that they can't meet your kids, and you don't want to meet theirs...

iRon Joined Tue 04/10/07 Posts: 2786	Tue 08/12/08 12:16 AM
Hmmmmmmmmm a cuddle buddy???? I dont know about you but if Im lying in bed cuddling.....I think the clothes would come off eventually and all sorts of dirty bad things could happen Of course clothes would come off....I am a guy cuddling involves sex and lots of it.....Unless she just needs to be held....