Topic: You have fallen for someone...
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Fri 08/08/08 06:48 AM
Edited by No1sLove on Fri 08/08/08 06:49 AM
and in every way this person is perfect for you and you have never been so in love.

Then you find out they lack sex drive...what do you do?

Can you be with someone who does not enjoy sex as much as you do...if everything else is beyond your dreams of what a partner should be?



BTW...this is a general question I dreamed up and has nothing to do with me or anyone you know.

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Fri 08/08/08 06:49 AM
there are herbs that help the body produce hormones... i would provide said herbs....

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Fri 08/08/08 06:50 AM
Edited by No1sLove on Fri 08/08/08 06:51 AM

there are herbs that help the body produce hormones... i would provide said herbs....
A go-getter, huh! laugh

True though...there could be something wrong with their hormone balance. Nice answer. But what if it didn't work?

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Fri 08/08/08 06:55 AM
Edited by SKPCG on Fri 08/08/08 06:57 AM
I don't want to sound devicive, but if I lacked a comparable sex drive, I'd do it anyway more often and with as much enthusiasm as I could muster, as it would be in me to want to please my partner to the best of my ability. There's so much more to sex than the "drive".

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Fri 08/08/08 06:55 AM

and in every way this person is perfect for you and you have never been so in love.

Then you find out they lack sex drive...what do you do?

Can you be with someone who does not enjoy sex as much as you do...if everything else is beyond your dreams of what a partner should be?



BTW...this is a general question I dreamed up and has nothing to do with me or anyone you know.


Suggest therapy!

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Fri 08/08/08 06:56 AM
love love love woooo hooooooo

i don't care who is driving...just as long as i am in the car!!



I don't want to sound devisive, but if I lacked a comparable sex drive, I'd do it anyway more often and with as much enthusiasm as I could muster, as it would be in me to want to please my partner to the best of my ability. There's so much more to sex than the "drive".

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Fri 08/08/08 06:57 AM
If you truly love someone... you can get through any situation as long as you tackle it as a team and not alone

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Fri 08/08/08 07:01 AM
Edited by nurjoyce on Fri 08/08/08 07:03 AM
sex is not everything, however if there is a big difference it can cause other problems such as feelings of insecurities etc

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Fri 08/08/08 07:01 AM
different appetites for sex can be frustrating for both parties.....
i think i masturbated more often when i was married then i do now.....go figure
????

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Fri 08/08/08 07:04 AM
um.... honestly if you have to ask this question you haven't " fallen" for anyone. I mean sex cannot become obselete but i think you should do it atleast 1 a week or so i mean whatever... buy some toys.. kiss a lot... there are ways to get over the sex thing plus the two people should really talk about it, esp if one is feeling left out or things the other may not be attracted anymore its best to talk it out especially if you do love someone. I wouldn't say sex is important when you've foudn the one, but I would say atleast in the beginning decades it does have some relevance

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Fri 08/08/08 07:06 AM

I don't want to sound devicive, but if I lacked a comparable sex drive, I'd do it anyway more often and with as much enthusiasm as I could muster, as it would be in me to want to please my partner to the best of my ability. There's so much more to sex than the "drive".
What if you were on the other end of it...and they did not show the same courtesy you would show them? Would you request that they just give it a try...for your sake?


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Fri 08/08/08 07:08 AM

um.... honestly if you have to ask this question you haven't " fallen" for anyone. I mean sex cannot become obselete but i think you should do it atleast 1 a week or so i mean whatever... buy some toys.. kiss a lot... there are ways to get over the sex thing plus the two people should really talk about it, esp if one is feeling left out or things the other may not be attracted anymore its best to talk it out especially if you do love someone. I wouldn't say sex is important when you've foudn the one, but I would say atleast in the beginning decades it does have some relevance
See my next thread...inspired by your answer. flowerforyou

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Fri 08/08/08 07:08 AM
laugh laugh you are so funny....

"suggest they give it a try"

you mean beg like a doggie!!!:wink:



I don't want to sound devicive, but if I lacked a comparable sex drive, I'd do it anyway more often and with as much enthusiasm as I could muster, as it would be in me to want to please my partner to the best of my ability. There's so much more to sex than the "drive".
What if you were on the other end of it...and they did not show the same courtesy you would show them? Would you request that they just give it a try...for your sake?



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Fri 08/08/08 07:14 AM

laugh laugh you are so funny....

"suggest they give it a try"

you mean beg like a doggie!!!:wink:

Oh my word...NO! I am thinking more along the line of trying to get them to go through the motions to see if they might improve their sex drive with practice. Don't laugh...I saw a special that suggests that sex itself is the cure for bringing sex drive back. flowerforyou