r u mad at me fine

No handsome, it's not you.

WHAT IS RONG Siss? Talk to me.

okay i just wanted to make sure sorry if i pissed you off hun

Well, let's ask Van or Mike to put a message that says something like
"have you contacted this person notifying them that you want to put them
on your favorites list" when they hit the "Favorites Button".

(((Fine))))
Don't let this chase you away,,, I have the same issues,,, stand strong
Sweetie,,, Your true friends will stand with
you,,,I only hope that with the new features that are coming out this is
one of the features that will be changed, For the time being i email and
ask them to remove me...

Thanks guys but there will probably not be anything in the new features
that will take care of this.

I am crying as I am typing this because I feel like I have no other
alternitive, but to delete until they either take care of this or until
I am forgotten about.

I do love you guys so very much, but this has already struck me too
close to home once today. And seeing them there just brings it all back.

I will miss you all

All my love


FINE

hummmmmmmmm!!

Fine, I feel for you.I have a similar problem ,my friends all took
themselves off my list! friends? hmmmm..It never hit me til I just
wrote it..maybe they werent friends.I dont know you except thru your
posts.Please dont go Im sure It can be worked out but I truly feel ya.I
left awhile and came back becos of meanies but it all works out!! good
luck with whatever your decision!

When I frst started in here, I used favorites as a book mark or way of
saving interesting people while scrolling thru search. Didn't know that
it would bother, is there a way to erase those?

i haven't added anybody to my favorites, but i was under the impression
the favorites list was similar to your favorites on your browser. you
find somebody that may interest you, and you don't want to lose their
profile. although one would assume that the next step would be to
contact the person you added...

Found it made changes

I haven't added antbody ,but it's good to here everybodies opinion,Me
personally,I would ask first. Anybody wants to be on mine just yell. Be
back later to read more opinions on this.
Good Luck Fineporcelain

Lex, you're right about the normal meaning of "favorite", but recent use
of the term in software has added an additional meaning for many young
internet users - now 'favorite' is considered by some to be a good
synonym for 'bookmark'.

One of the first things i did on JSH was 'bookmark' a total stranger i
had no interest in, just to see how the bookmarking worked, then i
bookmarked some profiles who had interesting photos, then i bookmarked
some people who said some interesting things in the forums. I didn't
care all that much about these people or their profiles either way.

Then i heard someone complain about their lack of control over who
bookmarks them, and out of courtesy, I kicked off that first set of
bookmarks. (No one had contacted me to request removal).

Now i still bookmark total strangers, but its mostly people who
demonstrate the maturity and sensibility (in their forum postings or
profiles) where i'm confident they won't see things in a negative light.

When you join JSH you put yourself in the public view, thats just how it
is, thats the choice you have made. People can see your profile even if
they are not a member. People can add you to their browser "Favorites"
without even being a member, and without you knowing it.

I guess what i'm learning here is that some people see "adding as a
favorite" as establishing -some- kind of relationship with the person,
and they don't want strangers forcing that relationship on them, and
having no control over it.

Suppose the designers of this site remove this bookmarking function
altogether - would that make these people feel better? Even though you
know people will still might be using their browser's favorites?

Does anyone have any ideas for improving this situation based on how
other dating sites handle the issue?

Massage -- I'm just trying to look at it from the viewpoint of someone
who finds it intrusive or invasive. Sure, there are going to be people
who are experimenting with bookmarking, etc., who have absolutely no
malicious intent whatsoever. It's a tool, you want to know how to use
it and what it does.

I wouldn't (personally) have a problem with that sort of thing at all.

But other people might, and I think that's where we need to establish
some sort of "standard" -- based on the idea that it really wouldn't be
all that difficult to set up a protocol of when and how it is/is not
acceptable to add someone to a favorites list, etc.

And, sure, there would be an occasional newbie who violates the policy
due to not being aware of it, but there are a lot of JSHers who are very
good about pointing out, and offering corrections for, a faux pas
committed in simple ignorance.

Kojack has given us a superb guide for all JSH users in the Welcome New
members section. Not everybody reads it, but those who do seem to have
more of a desire to fit in and display the respect that this site is
based on. This shows me that a posted, coherent policy is infinitely
preferable to no policy at all. I think we could do the same thing with
the "favorites" issue, etc.