I agreed to joint custody because he is a good daddy to our kids. We get
along with each other better now but it was a big pain at first.We also
have in our court papers that he has to give me notice as well. It is
also in are papers that neither one of us can bring an girl freind or
boyfreind around are kids until we have dated them for 6 months to a
year. The person we date can not do drugs or have a record. We did this
to protect our kids.They need to come first. I have never heard of the x
having to meet the new person that dont even make sence . the x could
just turn them down cause you are seeing them i dont know of anyone who
likes their x's new partner.

I had that problem with my ex husband too.I pretty much did what king
said.He ran my life long enough and to hell with him I said. I had the
job, I was going to school,I had the babysitter available. If he didn't
want to take "our" son to keep me from doing anything then it was no
problem for me because in all actuality he was the one missing out on
spending time with his kid not me because I took care of my business.

Well I was in a smiliar situation, except mine doesn't pay anything at
all, he doesn't care if it means jail time. But you have to break the
hold that he has on you. Do you have a friend that could maybe watch the
kids, I'm doing everything myself, but my mom helps me when I just need
to go out and be alone or a date. Let him know that you are not in his
control anymore and just be done with it.

i've noticed from my relationships that even when they don't want you
around anymore, they still can't let go.

well amacree..it's pretty damn hard for yer ex to even meet any potetial
babysitters if he's 100 miles away..I say fuck him..get a babysitter, go
out and have some fun...just cuz you start dating again doesn't mean you
have to bring him to the house right away, cuz I'd bet dollars to donuts
there is NOTHING in the divorce decree that says HE has to approve any
or all babysitters. and if he don't want "strangers" babysitting his
kids..then he should be taking them on his time, if he doesn't..he's the
one with no leverage

Unless its stimulated in a court order.
Then you can do as you please.
Well, within reason.

He only! suppose to responsible of paying child support and pickup the
children as arrangment between both of u. I have the same problem, but
u can't let him them take advantage of your life, He moved on and so do
u. Tell him like it is do not get into my personal life, your only
concerned here are the children and back off. He will leave u alone and
will start pick-up the children more often.

wow.. he seems to have a control problem. that sounds like my ex. I am
kinda goin through the same thing except he told the court he didnt want
any thing to do with his kids, but now he wants to start seeing them.
But honey all you have to do is not let him control you, if u move on
and do what u want he may see that u wont take no shit from him no more,
and if he still does all this, take him back to court and hopefully then
something will click.