Topic: stalkers
msdestinbooty's photo
Tue 07/29/08 02:20 AM
if a woman that you really like she found out that she had someone calling and following her around all the time. Like threatening her and all that calling her at odd hours of the night. Would you protect her no matter what? This isnt happening to me just curious is all. Just seeing what you guys have to say about the woman you care about and love.

kerbear73's photo
Tue 07/29/08 02:21 AM

if a woman that you really like she found out that she had someone calling and following her around all the time. Like threatening her and all that calling her at odd hours of the night. Would you protect her no matter what? This isnt happening to me just curious is all. Just seeing what you guys have to say about the woman you care about and love.


Hell yeah, I would protect her

msdestinbooty's photo
Tue 07/29/08 02:22 AM


if a woman that you really like she found out that she had someone calling and following her around all the time. Like threatening her and all that calling her at odd hours of the night. Would you protect her no matter what? This isnt happening to me just curious is all. Just seeing what you guys have to say about the woman you care about and love.


Hell yeah, I would protect her



what would you do to keep her safe?

caponeog's photo
Tue 07/29/08 02:24 AM



if a woman that you really like she found out that she had someone calling and following her around all the time. Like threatening her and all that calling her at odd hours of the night. Would you protect her no matter what? This isnt happening to me just curious is all. Just seeing what you guys have to say about the woman you care about and love.


Hell yeah, I would protect her



what would you do to keep her safe?
i would never let her go out alone would always walk her to her house or car wanna get to her you gotta go thru me:angry:

msdestinbooty's photo
Tue 07/29/08 02:25 AM




if a woman that you really like she found out that she had someone calling and following her around all the time. Like threatening her and all that calling her at odd hours of the night. Would you protect her no matter what? This isnt happening to me just curious is all. Just seeing what you guys have to say about the woman you care about and love.


Hell yeah, I would protect her



what would you do to keep her safe?
i would never let her go out alone would always walk her to her house or car wanna get to her you gotta go thru me:angry:



another great answerflowerforyou

MirrorMirror's photo
Tue 07/29/08 02:26 AM
(a) Obtain an order of protection.
(b) Do not ignore any threat. Call the police or sheriff's department.
(c) Save any record of the threat.
(d) Have quick access to critical telephone numbers and the location of safe places, such as: Police Stations, friend's houses, domestic violence shelters, etc.
(e) Consider a home security check. (Local police branches, victim support agencies, and security companies may offer this service.)
(f) Keep a packed suitcase in the car for a quick departure.
(g) Keep gas in your car and adequate money or credit cards in your wallet.
(h) Limit the distribution of your home address and phone number. Provide business contact information instead, whenever possible.
(i) Consider getting a Post Office Box for correspondence or installing a locking letter box.
(j) Make sure all personal information on letters or paperwork is destroyed before discarding it. (Stalkers may go through your trash looking for personal information.)
(k) Have your address and other contact details removed from all public records, including electoral rolls, libraries, business cards, driver's license, car registration, and medical registries.
(l) If children are involved, they should be instructed in basic safety drills. Their school should also be notified, given information about the stalker, and security arrangements should be made for them in case the stalker appears there.
(m) Keep a detailed diary of the stalkers behavior, including photographs of destroyed property, photographs of injuries inflicted by the stalker, recordings of harassing messages, license plate numbers, etc.
-Keep pen and paper easily accessible, even in the car, for this purpose.
(n) Install dead bolt locks. If you do not know where all of your keys are, change your locks immediately.
(o) If possible, install outdoor lighting, lockable windows, exterior motion sensor lights, and peepholes in doors.
-Trimming shrubbery is also recommended.
(p) Vary your routes of travel.
(q) Park in safe, well-lit areas. Always have someone escort you to and from your car.
(r) Tell your managers, co-workers, friends, and security at your business and residence about the stalker. If possible, provide them with a description and photograph. Ask them to alert you in advance about the stalker's presence and call the police, if appropriate.
(s) Purchase a mobile phone for emergencies.
(t) Use an unlisted home phone number and acquire caller-ID.
(u) Do not change your phone number. A stalker may view this as a new challenge to overcome in order to be with you, feeding their false beliefs. Instead, purchase an answering machine and ask a same-gender friend to record the message (so as not to provoke a stalker who mistakenly perceives competition).
(w) Take self-defense training classes.
(x) File police reports of any illegal behavior perpetrated by the stalker.

Diffuse the unique motivations of the stalker
(a) Make it completely clear that a relationship is not wanted now or in the future.
-Say this only once.
-Use plain language.
-Try not to be emotional.
-Avoid using threatening or humiliating language.
-You may want to rehearse with a friend before speaking with the stalker.
(b) Do not engage in further discussions with the stalker.
-Do not argue with them.
-Do not negotiate with them.
-Ongoing communication will reward the stalker and lead him to maintain contact.

Be careful not to unintentionally encourage the stalker
(a) Never initiate contact with the stalker. They may misperceive this to indicate that you are interested in them.
(b) Statements like, "I'm sorry, but I'm just not interested in a relationship at the moment," or "I'm too busy for this right now," may imply that you could be interested in a relationship some time in the future.
(c) Statements like, "I already have a boyfriend," may be interpreted as "I'd go out with you but for my boyfriend."
(d) Do not let them down easy by delivering your rejection in installments. This will only needlessly prolong the relationship. This may give the stalker hope or give his obsession with you time to grow.
(e) Do not return unsolicited letters of gifts. This may prove to the stalker that he is connecting with you.





caponeog's photo
Tue 07/29/08 02:26 AM





if a woman that you really like she found out that she had someone calling and following her around all the time. Like threatening her and all that calling her at odd hours of the night. Would you protect her no matter what? This isnt happening to me just curious is all. Just seeing what you guys have to say about the woman you care about and love.


Hell yeah, I would protect her
thx blushing


what would you do to keep her safe?
i would never let her go out alone would always walk her to her house or car wanna get to her you gotta go thru me:angry:



another great answerflowerforyou

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Tue 07/29/08 02:31 AM

if a woman that you really like she found out that she had someone calling and following her around all the time. Like threatening her and all that calling her at odd hours of the night. Would you protect her no matter what? This isnt happening to me just curious is all. Just seeing what you guys have to say about the woman you care about and love.
yep, been there done that

msdestinbooty's photo
Tue 07/29/08 02:32 AM


if a woman that you really like she found out that she had someone calling and following her around all the time. Like threatening her and all that calling her at odd hours of the night. Would you protect her no matter what? This isnt happening to me just curious is all. Just seeing what you guys have to say about the woman you care about and love.
yep, been there done that



sorry to hear about that

kerbear73's photo
Tue 07/29/08 02:35 AM



if a woman that you really like she found out that she had someone calling and following her around all the time. Like threatening her and all that calling her at odd hours of the night. Would you protect her no matter what? This isnt happening to me just curious is all. Just seeing what you guys have to say about the woman you care about and love.


Hell yeah, I would protect her



what would you do to keep her safe?


I would do everything in my power to keep her safe, I would be there any way I can

MirrorMirror's photo
Tue 07/29/08 02:35 AM
drinker My advice pretty much covers all bases Ms.Bootydrinker

heartofgold321's photo
Tue 07/29/08 02:36 AM
I would help her and I think MirrorMirror has the list of right ideals that should be done.

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MirrorMirror's photo
Tue 07/29/08 02:40 AM

I would help her and I think MirrorMirror has the list of right ideals that should be done.

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bigsmile Thanks bruthadrinker