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Topic: Help me!!!!!
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Mon 07/28/08 10:18 AM
Mary, how old is she? Does she work or go to school?

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Mon 07/28/08 10:41 AM
Edited by duckiegiggles on Mon 07/28/08 10:47 AM
she has to make up her own mind about it
when and if that time comes she will wake up and relize her son should come first and to stay away from the ass
but untill then take care of you grandson and as fusterating as it maybe get and be you have to stay by her side untill her time
keep calling the cops and doing what you have to in the end even if shes pissed off at you she be thankful for it one day

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Mon 07/28/08 10:55 AM

Mary, how old is she? Does she work or go to school?


No she does not work or go to school. She is 21, she met this guy on line and moved here last July. At that time I fought with her and she did finally agree to Leave the baby with me. After about 4 months she can and took him(broke my heart). I tried to stop her but the police said there was nothing I could do.
Now the only thing I can do is make sure he is safe and she will just have to do what she thinks she should do. I can't keep fighting with her. I love her dearly and dont want to see her get hurt.

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Mon 07/28/08 10:56 AM

I am a social work student, so if you want some advice, please send me an email.


Thank you, I might just do that

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Mon 07/28/08 10:56 AM


Mary, how old is she? Does she work or go to school?


No she does not work or go to school. She is 21, she met this guy on line and moved here last July. At that time I fought with her and she did finally agree to Leave the baby with me. After about 4 months she can and took him(broke my heart). I tried to stop her but the police said there was nothing I could do.
Now the only thing I can do is make sure he is safe and she will just have to do what she thinks she should do. I can't keep fighting with her. I love her dearly and dont want to see her get hurt.
But the main concern is the baby...too many people use a child to hurt another adult...just keep him safe and if your daughter can't see that you may be saving her life by helping...there is nothing you can do...just be there when she decides that you were right

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Mon 07/28/08 10:57 AM
She will come around sooner or later...One day she will wake up and realize what she has lost...You did the best thing for her and the child...It's all up to her now.

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Mon 07/28/08 10:59 AM


I am a social work student, so if you want some advice, please send me an email.


Thank you, I might just do that


I'll be around online until about 4 pm today... this is my area of interest, plus I am a survivor of domestic violence. So when ever you are ready, send me a message.

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Mon 07/28/08 11:03 AM

Let her go. Sounds like your grandson will be better off without her. Time to stop worring about her and care for your grandson. Good luck.


"time to stop worrying about her"?
She is my daughter, how can I stop?!!
I don't know if you have kids, but I hope if you do and they got in some trouble you wouldn't be that way with them.

And as far as my grandson being better off without her.....
there is no child that is better off without their mother or father.
I hope you are not as cold hearted as what you sound

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Mon 07/28/08 11:35 AM
Comes a time for what is called "TOUGH LOVE."
Understand the desire to help your kids, but if they refuse to help themselves; then time to get tough.
Been there & still doing that.
From what you have posted, I think the child WOULD BE better off without the mother, until she quits putting the child in danger, THRU HER thoughts & actions.

You do what is best for you.
I think men reach the tough point quicker then women.
The desire to mother runs deep.
Good luck.

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Mon 07/28/08 11:56 AM
You did the right thing.

Shelter your grandson, make sure she is on birth control if you can so she doesn't compound her errors then take her silly ass to the morgue to give her a preview of coming attractions.

Try calling some local abuse help lines and ask for leads on organizations that help victims of abuse and their families. CPSs in most states have their hands full. Additional help is usually available through community organizations.

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Mon 07/28/08 08:29 PM
I want to thank everyone for the advice. I have read each one and have taken a little from each.
I don't know what is going to happen to my daughter, we just found out she is pregnant.
But I do know what will happen to my two year old grandson. He will be loved, and he will be happy. No one will ever hurt him again. He will be staying with me.
Again Thank you to all that took time to read and to write.

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Mon 07/28/08 08:49 PM
Mary,

I've just sent you an email outlining some steps you can take to protect your grandson through the courts. This is my field and something I do every day. Feel free to contact me at any time and I'll help you.

Cyn

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Mon 07/28/08 10:53 PM


Mary, how old is she? Does she work or go to school?


No she does not work or go to school. She is 21, she met this guy on line and moved here last July. At that time I fought with her and she did finally agree to Leave the baby with me. After about 4 months she can and took him(broke my heart). I tried to stop her but the police said there was nothing I could do.
Now the only thing I can do is make sure he is safe and she will just have to do what she thinks she should do. I can't keep fighting with her. I love her dearly and dont want to see her get hurt.


She needs something in her life to build her self esteem & make her realize she can be a strong independant woman & an example for her son. They are lucky to have you! flowerforyou

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