Hi I am a single mom of a 2 month baby girl, I live in a small town of
only 1100 people. I have been here now for 9 years with my mom, she has
now been divourced for 4 years. She just lost her cleaning contract she
had at the mill, and I am a production tech at the sawmill and I make
$23.87 an hour. My mom and I arent happy here and want to move, we have
family in wainwright alberta and want to move there by next month.
Wainwright is 16 hours away we are going to rent a U-haul etc. I am on
mat leave untill next december 22nd, I can finda job that pays around
$10.oo and hour to $15.00 an hour. Which is a pretty big pay cut but i
know that i can still suport my baby and I. My mom and I are going to
get a place together to help eachother out. And my cousin doesnt work
and she will watch my lil one while I work in late december. Do you
think it is a good idea for me to quit my job and move to a place where
i will be happy? I am scared, b/c i am a single mom and I only want the
best for my daughter. If i stayed here after my mom left i would be
lost. And the daycares here are $40 a day and i work 6 days a week, and
i work weird hours so i wouldnt always have a babysitter. i am so torn i
dont know what i should do. Quit my job? stay here and by unhappy and
alone without my family? i dont want to take my daughter away from her
grandma? I am willing to listen to any advice thank you very much

Autumn, I think there are only two things that really matter here.

1. You're not happy where you are.

2. Everyone will be better off if the family sticks together.

Sounds to me like you've already pretty much decided you want to get
away from where you are now, you just need a little reinforcement for
that position. Your mom losing the contract is bad, in a way, but it
could also be an impetus for all of you to move to a better place, start
over, and actually enjoy where you'll be and what you'll be doing.

You know you don't want to stay there without your mom, and there's no
good reason to separate your mom and your daughter. I say go for it, I
think the potential upside is way better than the ongoing and
ever-increasing downside you'll be dealing with if you stay where you
are.

thanks Lex that sure makes me feel better.. I wasnt sure what was best.
But staying with family is the most important thing in life to me. Money
doesnt buy happyness

seems as tho you already know the answer there my dear.
Family should always come first.

hey girl i agree with these nice guys if you are not happy then go for
it and do whats best for you and your baby i also am a single mom and
girl noe thing i learnt was you got to do what best for your baby and
you being happy means your baby well be happy too. so take the risk you
have the right to be happy.

it definitely sounds more like you're asking us to validate your
decision than help you make it. don't second guess yourself. the fact
that you are wondering if it's the right decision shows that you are a
good mother. you know what's best for you and your daughter.

Everybody is in agreement Autumn. You know what you want to do. Life is
about risks. Follow your heart Your first instinct is usually the right
one.
Good luck.

Hi autumn stay with your family,you are so very young,the money will
come again in time, and you have a chance to move and be happy
now,before you know you'll be back to makin =g good money and you will
already be happy!!!! Go For it girl

thanks guy... Im gonna get er done!! lol wish me luck