I've been dating this girl for a little over a month now and we've known each other for about 5 months now. We are deeply in love... or so I thought. I'm away from home for the next month and my girlfriend sends me this email today talking about a guy I know from her campus who just told her that he likes her a lot and want s to date. After getting some advice from me she decided to sit down with him and talk this out and lay out some ground rules... all's better right? No... I confided the situation to one of my superiors and he said in his many years in the navy he has heard stories start like this many times and they all end the same way... with the guy getting cheated on. Do you think I have anything to worry about? What should I do?

go AWOL

u should definatly be careful. there is a good chance of you getting hurt

Talk to her and please....don't let yourself get wrapped up too much...you have only been together a short time and please, please find someone to talk to...if not here, then your buddies there. Pray about it and hope for the best...no negatives okay?

Sorry to bust your bubble but first deeply in love after a month? Ground rules for who her or the other guy or you? Your so young but you will learn in time I just hope that your heart does not get broken to many times before you understand what a relationship is.

I have to agree with this statement

heres a true story of a man who was in love with this woman,he told her that she can date whoever she wants,but not 3 times(only 2 dates)with all the nooks and crannies that come along with it,but do not tell him anything,so he went off to war and she did her thing,months later,wars over and she goes back to him.and they been happily married since

Men & Women cheat. Now not every single man or woman but the fact that she told you and didn t try to hide it from you is a positive thing.

There is NO UPSIDE to her dating someone else while you are away. Despite your obvious feelings for this woman you only have a month of your time invested in this "relationship." I forsee heartache in this relationship for you. If you two are "deeply" in love she should wait for you. If she really wants to date him then I say move on.

brace yourself for the worst you might get hurt.

I hate to be negative, but I have seen many a soldier get hurt in that way.

Bail out now & save yourself future disappointment!!

then don't be..he needs help...not lectures guys...c'mon

if she was going to be committed to you then she would never even entertain such other notions...

sorry

a committed relationship is just that=committed! ( distance has nothing to do with it!)

just be yourself and guys he doesnt need negative thought s

this sounds like some of the crap i would've pulled in my younger days....

ok really quick... I wasn't too clear earlier... she laid out ground rules of friendship... like she didn't want to date him... the only thing I'm worried about is what my superior said about what he's seen happen all the time with this kind of situation

Talk to her.

Don't dweel on what he said and remember that every other relationship is not yours...concentrate on what she tells you...just talk

Screw all of that Brother!....You asked for Navy help....Here I am....USN CV-66 USS America..(Aircraft carrier)...1986, participated in the Airstrike on Lybia....I worked the bow catapult system for bow cat 1 (of 4)....

Dude!...sounds like she is setting up a backdoor out for when she get's caught cheating......

Just enjoy the time spent rubbing against a person you are gonna cast out of your life.

One military guy to another.....Sex is great...Monkey sex is spectacular...dead fish sex....ain't. But even bad sex is better than no sex. I say, "Go for it"

Just watch your back brother....If it really happens for you....then you got lucky.