how can you be lovers if you cant be friends-michael bolton effin rocks people he gives great advice

Sure, why not? I'd let him go, just as I'd expect him to let me go out with my friends. Most likely, they're going to spend a lot more time with you than with their friends... so what's the harm in letting them spend a little time with their friends one night and seeing them another night?

Not much harm, I guess. I personally would take offense though. If I want to be with someone and they rather do something else... then wtf we're doing? I don't know.

It would lie on the happiness of my friend. Whtever makes them happy is real.

So, you want your girlfriend to spend time with you and only you? What about her friends? Is she supposed to give them up?

No. The question wasn't whether you would leave your friends/family for your lover. But whether you would spend time with said lover if he/she felt like being with you THAT day or THAT moment, whatever. I wouldn't mind if she was at a funeral and she said "sorry, I can't." but If going out with your girls it's more important than being with me when I want/need you... then, again, wtf we doing? >.>

rite!! how serious is the relationship?? if you "like" the person and r hopping for for more my focus would be on them, my friend would understand. but if this happens to be a regular thing canceling with your friends cuZ this someone wants you aaa HELLO RUN CUZ THERES A PROBLEM

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i say...bring them all together. why can't the person you like be with your friends too?

1st of all, I make it a rule never to date anyone that calls me, "Baby." (Personal pet peeve!)

2ndly, if I had plans that are set in motion, they would understand but, because they are just as important, I would find time to spend with them later or invite them along (so long as it wasn't a girls night out or something).

3rd, I would not expect them to drop all their plans if I asked them to hang out at the last moment.

Relationships are about balance. It not good to isolate yourself from the rest of the world just because you are dating one person and vice versa. That person should not be expect to isolate themselves just because they are dating you.

To me, it sounds as if you have a trust issue hidden in your questions. Trust your girlfriend & if you cannot, then re-evaluate your relationship. Your relationship cannot exist in harmony unless you both trust one another.

My love comes first, then friends

There are always exeptions to rules, but I prefer not to be rude to my friends. Most have been around for a very long time and I know I can count on them. If we had plans, I feel it would be best to follow thru with those plans.