Do ya think we allow all the little 'What Ifs" in life keep us frozen in fear of what might happen if we truly let down our defenses and allowed someone into our hearts, our world? Are we sabotaging ourselves, are we being selfish or are we actually thinking rationally before we make a jump?

What about the theory that you only have this moment and should just go for it and tackle the what ifs as they come?

Lifes too short to wake up in the morning with regrets, so love the people who treat you right, forget the ones who dont and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance, take it. If it changes your life, let it. Nobody said it would be e.a.s.y. I promise it will be worth it.

I think a lot of people live their lives by the what ifs....sad though....they may miss out on something soooo unbelieveable

well put ms kim,,,,very well said

I'm more of the "What if I don't" kinda girl. I don't want to live a life filled with regrets, so while I try to make wise decisons I never hold back or refuse to open myself up to life and love.

Then....I jump! I have a few scars, but the journey is usually worth it.

Kim and faith have both put it very nicely

Your response brought tears to me. I SO needed to hear this.

I might as well come clean and tell you I am struggling with the 'what ifs' in my life right now. I've met the most amazing man, actually we met on JSH, several months ago. We've been talking about moving in together, but I keep stalling. I know it's because of my history of having failed relationships and having to pick up the pieces alone. Also, I live in an apartment I can easily afford on my salary alone. If we move together and something happens to him, I could not afford his place on my own. I don't have family any longer and moving would mean I don't know anyone where I would be relocating. I have been back and forth on this with him a couple of times. He's been very patient and wants what will make me happy. Being with him will make me happy, but at the same time it scares the he11 outta me.

You've answered your own question, Lilbug.

While you are wise to look at the whole picture before making this major decision, what if you don't take this chance on life and happiness?!? Don't let your fear paralyze you. Take the time you need, talk to him, work out a compromise that gives you the comfort level you need for your future....then hopefully you can build one together!

Not me, jump in and hope you can swim...or at the very least someone throws you a floaty!

One of my fav quotes:

"To live without risk is to risk not living"

I love that one Judy!

I do believe in taking the leap of faith, grabbing for the brass ring, whatever you want to call it! And in a very short amount of time, I will be doing just that, thanks to months of talking!

Thanks everyone for your responses

auburngirl, I hope things work out for you

Reckon I have some packing to do....

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