You don't have a penis , do you?

I don't ask anything anymore, but this is how I would approach things if I were looking...and pretty much the successful route that my friendship took in finding it's way to love...even thought it was pretty accidental.

1. Ask what they are looking for and expecting from online relationships. If the answer is more than friendships and getting to know some good people at first...RUN!

2. Find out their core values...moral standards, family values, religious beliefs, general attitude about life and possibly their political convictions, especially if it's a subject you feel strongly about. If any of these things don't correspond fairly closely to your own, unless you believe you can keep them strictly as a friend...RUN!

3. Find out about their friendships and work relationships..if there seem to be common threads to all their stories of these people, like everyone is out to get them, they are all idiots, everybody hates them, there is probably a reason for this...RUN!

4. Find out if they are really past their last relationship. Someone who is still caught up on an old gf/bf, or husband/wife will be painfully obvious when they talk about their history with them cause it is not history...RUN!

5. Find out if they are emotionally open to a new relationship. Someone who is constantly bitter about how screwed they were by their ex often brings a guarded heart and heaping amounts of distrust into any new relationship. You might be perfect for each other, but they are going to have to drop off their mental baggage before boarding this plane. They are just too heavy to fly...RUN, or crash!

6. Then if you're content with what you've discovered from the person and feel that you'd like to take that step away from friendship, ask them if they have an interest in investigating more with you...Run with it!

are some important questions you should ask when getting to know someone..

if it pops into your mind you need to ask it