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Topic: Women and Trust Issues, please explain?
MsCarmen Joined Wed 05/07/08 Posts: 6282	Tue 07/15/08 02:11 PM
If every femaile you went out with stepped out on you, wouldn't you have issues too? Exactly! Or lied to you, disrespected you, abused you... There are many reasons why women have lack of trust, same as men. But whatever the reason, know that it is a valid one. But goes with the risk of falling in love and being happy ! Have you read my other thread about being damaged ? Yes I did, and as I stated in the other thread, it takes a lot of work to build trust in a relationship, whether damaged or not. It's not something that will just automatically be there. But if you really care about the person, you have to be willing to put forth that extra effort to prove to them that you are trustworthy. Yes, but as soon as your trust is put to the test, you're gone ! Why? If you don't do anything to make that person not trust you, then what is the problem?

RJR1 Joined Fri 02/22/08 Posts: 548	Tue 07/15/08 02:11 PM
Yeah, I have trust issues but everyone is different and if my bf says or does something that reminds me of someone else then that's just something I'm going to have to get over. JMO

MsCarmen Joined Wed 05/07/08 Posts: 6282	Tue 07/15/08 02:14 PM
If every femaile you went out with stepped out on you, wouldn't you have issues too? Exactly! Or lied to you, disrespected you, abused you... There are many reasons why women have lack of trust, same as men. But whatever the reason, know that it is a valid one. But goes with the risk of falling in love and being happy ! Have you read my other thread about being damaged ? Yes I did, and as I stated in the other thread, it takes a lot of work to build trust in a relationship, whether damaged or not. It's not something that will just automatically be there. But if you really care about the person, you have to be willing to put forth that extra effort to prove to them that you are trustworthy. I'm wondering how long should someone put forth the extra effort to prove oneself trustworthy? It can be quite draining to constantly reassure someone. I agree, it can be. I guess if it comes to a point that you are feeling like it's not getting anywhere, then maybe take a step back and let them know that you've done all you can do to prove yourself, and that now it is up to them whether they are willing to take that leap of faith. If they are not, then you know where you stand.

SportsNut2007 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 817	Tue 07/15/08 02:15 PM
If every femaile you went out with stepped out on you, wouldn't you have issues too? Exactly! Or lied to you, disrespected you, abused you... There are many reasons why women have lack of trust, same as men. But whatever the reason, know that it is a valid one. But goes with the risk of falling in love and being happy ! Have you read my other thread about being damaged ? Yes I did, and as I stated in the other thread, it takes a lot of work to build trust in a relationship, whether damaged or not. It's not something that will just automatically be there. But if you really care about the person, you have to be willing to put forth that extra effort to prove to them that you are trustworthy. Yes, but as soon as your trust is put to the test, you're gone ! Why? If you don't do anything to make that person not trust you, then what is the problem? I can sense when a person is insecure, or masking trust !

Unknow Joined Wed 10/24/07 Posts: 7373	Tue 07/15/08 02:18 PM
If every femaile you went out with stepped out on you, wouldn't you have issues too? Exactly! Or lied to you, disrespected you, abused you... There are many reasons why women have lack of trust, same as men. But whatever the reason, know that it is a valid one. But goes with the risk of falling in love and being happy ! Have you read my other thread about being damaged ? Yes I did, and as I stated in the other thread, it takes a lot of work to build trust in a relationship, whether damaged or not. It's not something that will just automatically be there. But if you really care about the person, you have to be willing to put forth that extra effort to prove to them that you are trustworthy. I'm wondering how long should someone put forth the extra effort to prove oneself trustworthy? It can be quite draining to constantly reassure someone. I agree, it can be. I guess if it comes to a point that you are feeling like it's not getting anywhere, then maybe take a step back and let them know that you've done all you can do to prove yourself, and that now it is up to them whether they are willing to take that leap of faith. If they are not, then you know where you stand. Agreed, I guess it's figuring out when to take that step back.

MsCarmen Joined Wed 05/07/08 Posts: 6282	Tue 07/15/08 02:19 PM
I can sense when a person is insecure, or masking trust ! Then I think the simple solution to that would be to talk to them about it and see exactly what it is they are having trouble trusting you. Like I said, being in a relationship is hard work, but it's up to you as to how much effort you are going to put into it. Why run at the first sign of trouble? If that's the case, then what's the point in getting involved with anyone anyway?

No1sLove Joined Wed 04/16/08 Posts: 10342	Tue 07/15/08 02:21 PM
Online he had to prove to me he was a REAL BOY long before we even thought about "trust issues". What a picture...ewwwwww Yeah...that was meant in a Pinocchio way and not an anatomy way.