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Topic: Can you remain friends...
lilangel2 Joined Wed 03/05/08 Posts: 9096	Mon 07/14/08 09:52 AM
...with someone of the opposite sex that has made it clear he wants more than friendship???

Gypsy41 Joined Tue 05/15/07 Posts: 123359	Mon 07/14/08 09:53 AM
No.....it wouldnt be fair to him or me

Jules0565 Joined Fri 06/06/08 Posts: 4485	Mon 07/14/08 09:54 AM
I feel he can state whatever he wishes.. he's let it be known.. BUT if he continually tried acting on those feelings ..in hopes to ruin a relationship I might have .. he would have to go. My relationship would mean more than a friendship.. and he truly wouldnt be a friend if he interferred with my happiness.

tanyaann Joined Mon 12/03/07 Posts: 32220	Mon 07/14/08 09:58 AM
I think if both of you are single, yes you can remain friends. But if you are in a relationship and your opposite-sex friend professed their love of you, it would be best to slow end the friendship to more of an aquaintance status. Because obviously they don't respect your current relationship enough to back off.

Redshirt Joined Tue 02/26/08 Posts: 2109	Mon 07/14/08 09:58 AM
...with someone of the opposite sex that has made it clear he wants more than friendship??? Yes. Been there done that. Not easy. But if you truly respect them it can be done. Simply have to respect the boundaries.

Nova86 Joined Sun 06/29/08 Posts: 4547	Mon 07/14/08 09:59 AM
It depends on if he can accept being your friend. Sometimes men/women cannot look past these feelings and it becomes awkward to a point that the friendship is ruined. However, if you two are close friends and he can accept the fact that you just want to be friends....then i see no problem with continuing the friendship.

Riding_Dubz Joined Wed 05/21/08 Posts: 22110	Mon 07/14/08 10:00 AM
yea i'm still friends with a couple women that wanted to turn it up a notch, i still talk to them on a weekly basis,

Jules0565 Joined Fri 06/06/08 Posts: 4485	Mon 07/14/08 10:02 AM
yea i'm still friends with a couple women that wanted to turn it up a notch, i still talk to them on a weekly basis, But do they view this as you're giving them hope? that maybe?? Or are you very clear?

fuzzi Joined Wed 09/05/07 Posts: 66	Mon 07/14/08 10:06 AM
nope. It will end up as head games. I was on both sides. Basically it turns into head games. Not fun.

Riding_Dubz Joined Wed 05/21/08 Posts: 22110	Mon 07/14/08 10:07 AM
But do they view this as you're giving them hope? that maybe?? Or are you very clear? I just said big no go, i think it would ruin our friendship and i belive that, to

Peccy Joined Thu 06/28/07 Posts: 17181	Mon 07/14/08 10:09 AM
I think they need to respect the boundaries. Boundaries are erected for a reason.

ljcc1964 Joined Fri 10/19/07 Posts: 8298	Mon 07/14/08 10:11 AM
Yes.

Lauuren8l Joined Fri 07/11/08 Posts: 27	Mon 07/14/08 10:12 AM
Im drunk=D

Lauuren8l Joined Fri 07/11/08 Posts: 27	Mon 07/14/08 10:12 AM
Im drunk=D

Riding_Dubz Joined Wed 05/21/08 Posts: 22110	Mon 07/14/08 10:12 AM
Im drunk=D it's 1:00pm,

Riding_Dubz Joined Wed 05/21/08 Posts: 22110	Mon 07/14/08 10:13 AM
I smell a fake

Lauuren8l Joined Fri 07/11/08 Posts: 27	Mon 07/14/08 10:17 AM
im not drunk, i just wanted to say that.

buttons Joined Mon 11/06/06 Posts: 25783	Mon 07/14/08 10:22 AM
its a bot

No1sLove Joined Wed 04/16/08 Posts: 10342	Mon 07/14/08 10:25 AM
Not if they are going to be pressing the issue of wanting more. Only if they can truly choose friendship over their desire for more can you proceed as friends...otherwise there will be pain involved for both parties and friendship is not supposed to be painful.

s1owhand Joined Fri 05/18/07 Posts: 29437	Mon 07/14/08 10:31 AM
well as soon as they both are happy being just friends or both want to pursue a relationship... then it'll work out!