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Ok just let me vent. I am a good person, go out of my way to help people and alot of the time it's at my own expence like this time. I bought a house 8 yrs ago with my boy friend, he decided 2 yrs ago he was not happy and left me for someone else. Ok I can handle that but he also left me with the mortgage and all our pets that I love sooo much. There are 5 dogs and 9 cats. I let a friend (not close) move in with me in June of 2007. She wanted to get away from her overbearing Mom, mind you this is a 57yr old woman and she said she would help with the bills. We agreed upon a rental amt and she would also pay 1/2 utilities. There was not 1 month where she actually paid what she was suppose to but I kept giving her the benefit of the doubt when she kept saying she would make it up to me. This woman was making $27 an hour! In February she lost her job and being the loser that I am I told her I wouldn't kick her out, I'm not an asswhole. She lied to me when she said she was looking for work and the final straw (this frightened me) was when they repossesed her car in my driveway. She finally did go back to Mom but stiffed me with 3 thousand in bills she told me she had taken care of. I found out she was grabbing the mail first so I wouldn't see the termination notices. Now I'm looking for a roommate who can actually help me but all I'm getting is frustrated. I don't know what I ever did so wrong to deserve any of this. I need some positive feedback if anyone can spare it.
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I am sorry that happened to you. You sound like a wonderful friend.
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Ok just let me vent. I am a good person, go out of my way to help people and alot of the time it's at my own expence like this time. I bought a house 8 yrs ago with my boy friend, he decided 2 yrs ago he was not happy and left me for someone else. Ok I can handle that but he also left me with the mortgage and all our pets that I love sooo much. There are 5 dogs and 9 cats. I let a friend (not close) move in with me in June of 2007. She wanted to get away from her overbearing Mom, mind you this is a 57yr old woman and she said she would help with the bills. We agreed upon a rental amt and she would also pay 1/2 utilities. There was not 1 month where she actually paid what she was suppose to but I kept giving her the benefit of the doubt when she kept saying she would make it up to me. This woman was making $27 an hour! In February she lost her job and being the loser that I am I told her I wouldn't kick her out, I'm not an asswhole. She lied to me when she said she was looking for work and the final straw (this frightened me) was when they repossesed her car in my driveway. She finally did go back to Mom but stiffed me with 3 thousand in bills she told me she had taken care of. I found out she was grabbing the mail first so I wouldn't see the termination notices. Now I'm looking for a roommate who can actually help me but all I'm getting is frustrated. I don't know what I ever did so wrong to deserve any of this. I need some positive feedback if anyone can spare it. Room Mates are Scary! Thats Why I don't Have any 
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Hmmmm...I'm reminded that "no good deed goes unpunished". It's sad that it's often true.
I'm sorry this happened to you. It's frustrating when we try to do the right thing and end up with the short end of the stick. Stay true to yourself and your good nature. It's fortunate that our own actions are the only ones for which we're accountable.
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Get it in writing and have it noterized.
Quit being a softie, it gets you nowhere. Trust me I know. They will do to you only what you let them. Not what you wanted to hear, I know, sorry. But life sometimes hurts. Hope things work out for you. |
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Last night I was getting groceries I had a few and this girl behind me only 2 bottles of wine so I let her go in front of me , just being the good person I am.
She ended needing to return 1 bottle of the wine for another. The manager had to come over, and that took 10 minutes, then she need cigeretts, then she forgot something else.....it was unbelievable and then no thank you for me letting her go ahead of me.... Point is PEOPLE SUCK and me being nice is my worst flaw and I have paid for it MANY TIMES!!!!!!!!!! bUT IN THE END IT IS MY HOPE THAT THE NICENESS PAYS OFF CAUSE THAT IS ALL I GOT.......... |
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Some friend she turned out to be!! Good luck to you.
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I am sorry this happened to you, I have done the same thing in the past, and I would still today. I am a nice person but some people take advantage of the ones that try to be nice. I hope that it will all work out for you. Good luck in finding a roommate, but I think I would look for a second job instead.
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Edited by
Amathyst2
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Sun 07/13/08 01:20 PM
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There's always going to be people out there that will take advantage of someone. They are everywhere! I'm sorry this happened to you. It's always disheartening to me to see genuine, caring people in this world go through this.
I would advise forgiving them (for your sake), take what you learned from it (so you will know the warning signs), and move on past it. Sometimes bad things happen to good people. It all part of life. You ask God for strength and he will give you obsticles (to learn how to be strong.) You ask for wisdom and he will give you complex situations (to acquire knowledge.) Keep being the wonderful person you are. Great things are in store for those who are genuinely good. Sometimes these situations are a blessing in disguise.
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that sucks.sue her butt.3 grand is a lot to be stuck with.
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Thank you all for your replies. I guess I needed to vent and to know somebody out there cares enough to write back a total stranger. I'm just having such a hard time with everything lately and I just feel so lost. Bless you all
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Friends & family will get you first & get you the worst.
Never combine business & friendship; VERY seldom works. Either sue her or cut your losses & move on. Just be careful nxt time. |
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don't know what I ever did so wrong to deserve any of this. I need some positive feedback if anyone can spare it. Okay, but it's going to sound really complicated. Stop being a damned victim. If you can't say something nice to the people you're helping, say something mean and kick them to the curb. As long as you have people taking from you, you wont have room for someone good, and you'll continue to feel this way. The good news is that pain is a good motivator for change. |
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damn...
suck it up and I hope you learned something. Thats the advice I got from a judge when something similar hapen to me. |
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