UtOh..game playing begins... not healthy

I know I deserve better, but I'm way too nice and forgiving of a person. I mean, I know his past, I lived with him and his family for a month (i know its not that long but it's enough to see little things here and there in a person). I know he's not an over-all bad guy. He made a mistake.

god what am I doing? I'm making excuses for him. Damnit. I wish it wasn't so hard.

quite frankly I hope he does too.

I noticed you didnt put you were engaged either...

Ok,
speaking from someone who has watched this scenerio over and over and over again with marines/sailors RUN RUN RUN

He's already cheated on you once, he WILL cheat on you again
He is most likely after the BAH(the military pays you extra for being married) and that causes a lot of marine/sailors to push for a marriage sooner than they should. I can't tell you the number of marines/sailors that i know that cheat on their wives on a REGULAR bases when they are away. He cheated on you while you where THERE WITH HIM!. Do you think he won't cheat on you in Japan? ...i've been overseas..it's not hard to pick up girls there..and if he cheated on you when you were with him there is a 99.8% chance that he is/already has cheated on you overseas. That and no offense but your young...enjoy it. Find a better guy.

same happened in WW2,.you must go through something that makes you crave that,..

I did until he took it out of his, and then I thought I put it back after realizing I was stooping to his level. I dont always examine my page.

I hate playing games. It's not me. But I don't know what to do anymore to get through to him or whatever it is I'm trying to do.

he's actually getting out in december...so does that BAH (or w/e) still in effective? I mean besides we weren't "scheduled" to get married til 2010..

Your relationship is doomed from the beginning. TRUST is a major issue and obviously he just can't be trusted or you would have never been checking to see if he had his add on a single site.
The first bad thing is that he cheated on you with his ex gf. Right there is something that makes you stop and realize that he can't be trusted!! Sweetie, you can not keep him in the house 24 hours a day...if he wants to cheat, he will. You said that was the first night he didn't stay with you, maybe he had it planned??
Then you have the singles add. Looking for an activity partner but he is engaged? I have to say one thing, he was honest about being engaged but he sure wasn't to worried about you! Sure, now he took off the looking for activity partner...but do you really believe that if he meets women, sex won't come into play? He already cheated once.
I would say break it off with him while he is over there. That way you won't see him and it will be so much easier!! I don't think he can be trusted at all!!
Good luck

Your just a booty call

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A lot of people say they are going to get out...but then don't because honestly the benefits/money is not bad at all. Personally the ones I see getting out more are not the ones engaged/married but the single guys because they don't have anyone that they need to support. But if it's his true intention on getting out..then no BAH does not have an effect. But as i said if he cheated on you on the only night that you weren't with him when he was with you when you were around...what makes you think all his nights in Japan won't be the same?..and even if he isn't cheating...do you want to put yourself through that? I tried...my wife cheated on me 8 weeks after we were married when i was in bootcamp. I forgave her..and 3 years later when i was deployed(and gone again) she cheated on me with 3 different guys...i've watched the same scenerio in reverse many many times too. It's REALLY hard to get that trust back...speaking from experience.

He really is getting out. He, I, and the rest of his family have talked it out. It's under an administrative-separation or medical discharge or something like that. I don't quite understand that process, but I know paperwork was done last week and it's supposed to be finalized 3-6 months from last wednesday.

but ya all that isn't the point.

I guess I need to stop being naive. I really don't think he's cheating on me over there, but what do I know, right? Aside that he has no life over there and is always online or on the phone w/ me. But im sure there is a time he could if he wanted...uhg

My opinion is you should marry him and be with him the rest of your life. You two are exactly alike and belong together forever.

Um, excuse me? I have never once been unfaithful in any relationship I have ever had. I also fully believe in the "open and honest" policy, and therefore don't believe in lying. I'm incredibly trustworthy. If you're solely basing your statement on the fact I put my profile back up, even though I don't actively USE it (I have more of a life than having to check it without going crazy, I just found myself bored today at my grandparents and somehow made my way here), than so be it. We're all entitled to our own opinions.

dump his sorry ass .. you can do better

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