Flirting. This is what you usually do with people you want to get to know. Before you really know them. People you want to be with. You flash a wink. Blow a kiss. Smile. Make eye contact. Raise eyebrows. Show interest. You flirt. You say something flirtatious. Stepping outside of your comfort zones. Sending chills up eachothers spines. You act flirty. Giddy-like...

Acting giddy before the giddyness fades away into a sense of; I know you now. What's new? No really! what's new?

My observation:

Guys get jealous when other guys flirt with their girls but why are these guys not flirting with their girls? Do they not know that is what these girls or woman want? Do these men not know that woman really crave their attention?

Sarcasm is negative attention. And there are guys out there that are very sarcastic to their woman and get mad when another guy flirts with his girl. The girl wants love. She wants attention. Positive attention. She wants to be built up. Not broken down. Fuucking asshole.

There are beautiful woman with ugly men. I'm not even talking about physical appearances here.

We as men, can be real assssholes if you think about it. Letting woman fall in love with us. Start flirting. Stop flirting. Start treating them like crap. Where the hell did this come from? We don't even wonder. We just live. As if the diamonds we have no longer shine. When all we need to do is clean them up. Spit game to our loved ones.

Is it really that hard?

Woman are smart. We wonder what happened. As if we did nothing wrong. All the while they know exactly what we did. When we stopped flirting. They noticed. They didn't say anything. But they were not happy.

So the next time some other guy flirts with your girl and she smiles toward them and doesnt shun them away! Then! Look at yourself and say;

"SHE JUST WANTED TO FEEL LOVED"

Because that is what she is telling herself inside.

That should help us men better understand what woman want.

If you need a blue print, well here goes;

Flirting = Showing Interest
Showing interest = Caring
Caring = Loving
Loving = Happy

I would advise everyone here who has a loved one, do me a favor and do something flirty for them. Show them you love them. See what happens.

Just flirt.

Who knows. You may get a flirt back.







DISCLAIMER: This was written out of frustration for a good friend of mine who has a boyfriend who cheated on her. She is a beautiful friend with a beautiful heart and, deserves better....

Hmmmmmmm......maybe she will get a guy like you?

Flirting...the chase...maybe that's where everyone goes wrong. We stop chasing, stop making the one we're with feel desired...loved...wanted...needed, even.

Very good, sweets.

Are you flirting with me?

Just kidding.

i like your observation

Well at least ONE man gets it!!

It's so typical that men do everything they can to "get us".. then everything stops once they have us! No more nice comments or anything.. And I'm not male bashing.. just from my experience.. and I'm sure some women do the same..

Why is that? The chase is over?? So that leaves me to ask, is it all about the chase for men or the actual relationship?

sounds great! are you from this planet???

How good of you not just to see this aspect of something that so often happens, but having the chutpah to share it. Thanks,
~Suzette

Yes. But I didn't get this for the longest time. I'm not perfect. I was with my ex for 10 years.

I flirted with my ex the first year and the last year. I'm speaking through experience. Why flirt the last year I was with her? Because that was when I realized the 8 years prior she was not happy.

Did I mention I didn't start flirting with her the last year until after I found out she cheated on me?

WTF!? WHO DOES THAT!? LOL

Talk about being hit over the head with an anvil to figure out that me being in love was making her feel loved.

Just could never figure out why I stopped flirting in the first place. Not that it would have mattered.

It's intersting being on this side of the spectrum opposite to last year caring or the year prior not caring.

If only both men and women would consistently treat each other so sweetly....consistently, ever so sweetly...

great sentiment - but I need a huge growth spurt 4 this one.

Differentkindofwench

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m1rxOVilDn4

Thank you for this!!!

flirting with you cause I can!!