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Topic: Can't be a hypocrite
Derekkye Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 3427	Wed 06/25/08 10:19 PM
Some time ago I asked my 14 year old son at the time, "So did you do it yet - you know". He had a girlfriend prior, but he was single at the time. He said, "no". I asked him what he was waiting for? He said "nothing". I repeated the question. A little more frustrated he said, "Nothing". One more time I asked, "What are you waiting for?" Really frustrated now he says, "NOTHING". I said, "Derek, you're waiting for love." Remembering this helped me in considering a "friend with benefits" scenario which thankfully did not materialize

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Wed 06/25/08 10:20 PM Edited by MirrorMirror on Wed 06/25/08 10:21 PM
Some time ago I asked my 14 year old son at the time, "So did you do it yet - you know". He had a girlfriend prior, but he was single at the time. He said, "no". I asked him what he was waiting for? He said "nothing". I repeated the question. A little more frustrated he said, "Nothing". One more time I asked, "What are you waiting for?" Really frustrated now he says, "NOTHING". I said, "Derek, you're waiting for love." Remembering this helped me in considering a "friend with benefits" scenario which thankfully did not materialize ok

Gypsy41 Joined Tue 05/15/07 Posts: 123359	Thu 06/26/08 01:15 AM
I cant believe you told your 14 yr old to basically have sex!!!

Gypsy41 Joined Tue 05/15/07 Posts: 123359	Thu 06/26/08 02:23 AM
A 14 yr old would not have a clue what you were talking about DAD!!! GEEEEEEEEEEEZ set a better example!!!

toreybelle Joined Sun 10/28/07 Posts: 2132	Thu 06/26/08 02:25 AM
I cant believe you told your 14 yr old to basically have sex!!! He didn't TELL HIM TO HAVE SEX.....he was pushing him to say WHY HE HASN'T!!!! TO make him think about it. Just my thought..... I'm glad it made you realize where that puts you as a role model. Kids do watch everything we do don't they???

Gypsy41 Joined Tue 05/15/07 Posts: 123359	Thu 06/26/08 02:27 AM
uhhhhhhhh do you honestly think a 14 would get that????

Gypsy41 Joined Tue 05/15/07 Posts: 123359	Thu 06/26/08 02:28 AM
and I doubt a 14 yr old would be waiting love........

Citizen_Joe Joined Sat 04/12/08 Posts: 4036	Thu 06/26/08 02:28 AM
Some time ago I asked my 14 year old son at the time, "So did you do it yet - you know". He had a girlfriend prior, but he was single at the time. He said, "no". I asked him what he was waiting for? He said "nothing". I repeated the question. A little more frustrated he said, "Nothing". One more time I asked, "What are you waiting for?" Really frustrated now he says, "NOTHING". I said, "Derek, you're waiting for love." Remembering this helped me in considering a "friend with benefits" scenario which thankfully did not materialize You let me see if I'm hearing you right. Your son just helped you pull your cranium from your rectum and you just heard that popping sound?

Gypsy41 Joined Tue 05/15/07 Posts: 123359	Thu 06/26/08 02:31 AM
Im wondering if this type of talk would be ok with their daughters????

Citizen_Joe Joined Sat 04/12/08 Posts: 4036	Thu 06/26/08 03:00 AM
Im wondering if this type of talk would be ok with their daughters???? It's a guy thing... The same guy who says go get some to his son, will go buy a shotgun to protect his daughter and it will seem perfectly rational, to us guys.

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Thu 06/26/08 04:11 AM
You asked a 14 year old if he "did it" yet? Yikes.

Barbie2100 Joined Fri 01/25/08 Posts: 707	Thu 06/26/08 08:12 AM
Some time ago I asked my 14 year old son at the time, "So did you do it yet - you know". He had a girlfriend prior, but he was single at the time. He said, "no". I asked him what he was waiting for? He said "nothing". I repeated the question. A little more frustrated he said, "Nothing". One more time I asked, "What are you waiting for?" Really frustrated now he says, "NOTHING". I said, "Derek, you're waiting for love." Remembering this helped me in considering a "friend with benefits" scenario which thankfully did not materialize Communication is the key. If you open the most sensitive subject up with your child, they tend to trust and believe that they can now speak to you on this subject and possibly come to you when they need advice/help with it in the future. My daughters told me and came to me with every issue or situation in their lives and at 22 and 23 they still do. If you don't open the lines of communication up with your children, you are in for a long road of surprises and possibly a situation that has gotten to far that you can not help out with. Making a subject taboo, will create loads of distance between a parent and child.