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1. Love yourself! You can't expect someone to love you, if you first don't love yourself. So if that means taking time to get to know yourself and change the things about yourself that you don't like about yourself, be sure to do that before looking for someone. No one can fill your voids, only you can!

food for thought
At which point loving yourself becomes being Vain?
At which point loving yourself becomes being selfish?

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2. If you are searching for love or attention, you will find it! However, it will not be what you truly want. When you are actively looking for love, you become blinded to red flags or may compromise to attain love. This of course also ties into #1. Don't actively look, keep your heart open to the possiblities. Do what you want to do, have fun, and grow as a person and when the 'one' comes along it will be wonderful.

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How many times you found the exact thing you were looking for but the circumstances beyond your control did not allow things to develop.


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3. Know or work to be come a complete person! Being in a relationship shouldn't define or make you a whole person. You should be or work towards being a whole person on your own. Yes, being in a relationship should add to you and help you grow, however, you should feel complete as a person before entering into a relationship. When you are happy with yourself, you will be able to be in a happy relationship.


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Becoming a complete person does not happen overnight and is life long process I suppose we reach our completeness what ever that might be at the final hour of our lives?


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~Loss~

Sometimes in life there are things that are lost... relationships, loved ones, jobs, things and beliefs/faith.

There are periods in life that everyone needs to reflect on things. At these times, you need to take inventory of your life, be thankful for your blessings and be extra thankful for the things that are lost because that makes room for new things, people and ideas in your life. If you lost something and you want it back, truly look deep inside yourself and decide if you really need it, if you really want it or just the idea of it, and if it benefits and adds to your life.

There are times that we hang on to those losses and then can't see great things in front of us. Make your peace and let go!


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I agree whole heartedly except no matter what you do it seems the healing process has a habit of taking too much time


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~You and Life~

You are a make up of dna, life experiences, and a bunch of other stuff. When you recognize that you can't change your dna, then you might be less likely to crave something your body cannot be. When you realize that your life experience help to mold who you are, then you can make changes or embrace what you have become. Life is all about changes, we don't stay the same as we were when we were born. We grow up, change, and live life and experience all life has to offer. Yes, each of our lives are different which leads each of us to be different individuals.

Observation People only evolve they do not change however life style can be changed and improved. The basic making of us like the dna remains the same for ever
just needs getting used to. Tanya you are a hell of a lady

(((TANYA)))

Robert,to answer or try to answer your questions....

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At which point loving yourself becomes being Vain?
At which point loving yourself becomes being selfish?
~It becomes vain or selfish when it takes over your life!

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How many times you found the exact thing you were looking for but the circumstances beyond your control did not allow things to develop.
~I personally belief that God has a plan for all of us, and at times things may appear to be what we want, but not what God thinks we need or has planned for us.
I agree whole heartedly except no matter what you do it seems the healing process has a habit of taking too much time


Observation People only evolve they do not change however life style can be changed and improved. The basic making of us like the dna remains the same for ever
just needs getting used to. Tanya you are a hell of a lady

~Good Point. But I think that there is change also.

And thank you!

(((Tanya)))

You have such a wonderful way of saying things!

I for one, did not feel ready for love again when I joined this site, but hoped only to make friends I might share myself with. I have made sooo many good friends here and have learned, laughed and grown through all they have shared with me as well.

Without advise such as this and without these topics that make me look within, I may have never made the discoveries I have made here, that have allowed me to open myself to love again and experience the joy in the love I have now found.

Tanya, you have most certainly been a dear friend to me and I have learned much from you, for sure!

Please write your thoughts more often hon, they are as lovely as are you.

((((Tanya))))

Best wishes to ya darlin

Nice thoughts Tanya-
The laws of attraction kind of apply in here...
You get what you give

((((Tanya))))

(((No1sLove))) Since our friendship began, I feel like we are kindred souls! I appreciate your friendship beyond words! I know that through the distance that we will be live long friends!

((((Tom)))) lovie!!! you and my gal are so perfect together! I love both of you very much! Have lots of fun in New Orleans! Bring me back some beads!!!

thanks for the comment!

hola mi amigo

I can't imagine life any other way now (((Tanya)))!