How do you know ?

Can they Last?

or am i just you stepping stone?

you will never know how long anything can last........

Hey...wasn't that a Monkey's song?

It was

in the long run..they dont last..

and u know its a rebound when being with somebody makes u feel better than being without the somebody you miss..

Pretty close anyway

If you're dating somebody a week after a breakup odds are it's too soon. Can it last? Well, how long did you have to wait t find your last girlfriend that worked out? Probably longer than a week, eh? I'm not saying it can't work, but everything is leaning towards it being a fling, not a relationship.

If they are always talking about the ex..then you know they are on the rebound. I think they are still hurt and trying to forget about the past relationship!
No I don't think it will last because they still are not over the other relationship. I truly believe before you start a new relationship, you need to get over the last relationship. Time heals everything...you have to take time to mend!!
I never date anyone that is just coming out of a divorce and I most definately won't date anyone that is seperated!! I know when I got my divorce, I didn't date for almost 2 years. Why would I want to drag someone into my messed up life? I needed time to get over my failed marriage before I even thought about dating!!!

Normally they don't last, but at times they do. I'd guesstimate the percentage is 85/15 against them lasting.

I had one last a year and a half, worst relationship I've ever been in.

My ex-in-laws were a rebound and they have been married for 37 years.

Just depends on the people involved. It's not the healthiest situation, you need to heal yourself before you can be any good for anyone else.

My marriage was a rebound relationship from my First Love. It lasted 13 years and took a very long time to get over.

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i'm "healed"...wondering about the other party...

Do they talk about their ex alot?

Do they talk badly about their ex?

Do they not mention their ex at all?

If you can answer yes, chances are they are not over them.

20 year marriage ended about 2.5 years ago...

You are right Lily..if they talk badly about their ex, that is a good sign that they still care!! One of my friends found that one out the hard way!! I kept telling her that he still loved his ex, but she didn't listen!!
If they talk about the ex all the time...RUN

Everyone heals at different rates. Everyone has a backpack, depending on how much is in their back pack is how quickly they can move on in a healthy way.

I've been single for a year, my last relationship was 5 months..this time, it had spanned over 20 years of dating on and off, I really thought this time was for good... It wasn't. Until I took the picture down I wasn't ready... the picture came down like 5 months ago... That's when I knew I was ready.

Exactly.... strong feelings are full of passion, whether it be lust or loathing.

When you are apathetic for your ex, then date. If you talk about an ex and are no longer friends and/or have no children together, you are not over them.

it's all a crap shoot, yes?

Honestly, I think you can tell how they feel?? What is your gut telling you? If your gut is telling you that they still care about their ex...then they probably do!! If this person talks about their ex or compares things that their ex use to do....then they still care.
The one thing you have to remember is this...you deserve someones full attention!! DON'T MAKE SOMEONE A PRIORITY WHO ONLY MAKES YOU AN OPTION!!!

Awe, welcome to the world of dating baby...