I have noticed over time many of the threads guys post here are all about getting the girl, but not many talk about what to do once you have the girl. I think more emphasis needs to be put into keeping our girls happy so you don’t end up back here complaining that things didn’t work out. These are all fairly simple things to do, although you may find some of them harder than others...

1. Be honest with them. If you start off a relationship by telling lies you have already sabotaged your chances at long term trust.

2. The phrase “you can look, but you can’t touch” is true up to a point, but... It is hard to not look at a pretty girl who walks past you, but “rubber necking”, which I have watched guys do time and time again, even when they are with their girl, is just not right. The grass is usually not greener on the other side unless there are problems in the relationship in the first place.

3. PDA’s aren’t embarrassing, they are a simple way of showing your woman you care about them. You don’t have to stick your tongue down her throat or sneak off behind the bushes. That’s not what PDA’s should be about. Holding hands, putting your arm around her shoulders or waist, gentle kisses… Those are some of the simple but fun things you can do that let her know you aren’t taking them for granted and aren’t ashamed to be with them (some girls think this ).

4. Don’t let outsiders interfere in your relationship. This is a huge part of what destroyed my marriage. Both of our families decided they knew what was better for us, and they royally hated each other so... When I tried to set them straight my ex stopped me. She wanted me to “play nice” with them to avoid problems. Well, that didn’t work out like she planned...

5. Tell your woman you love her at least once a day... And mean it!

6. Breakfast in bed, followed by a day of leisure where she doesn’t have to clean house or do the laundry, or watch the kids... Priceless...

7. Spur of the moment road trips to fun places or to a favorite shopping mall, just because she deserves it...

8. Candlelit dinner, wine, slow dancing in the living room (or as wild as the more outgoing of you may enjoy)...

9. A good back rub or foot massage at the end of a long day is always appreciated...

10. And sometimes the toughest for some guys: talk to them. Let them know you care about what is going on in their lives. Tell them you still think they are beautiful. Ask if there is anything they need you to do (and then actually do it). It’s not hard to do, but so many problems start because of a failure to communicate...

There’s lots of other things you can do. This list is just a starting point. Use your imaginations and let's show 'em all men aren't scumbags!

I say, yes to all- they are music to my ears specially when a guy really means it.

Bless you for the wonderful advice!
If I could only choose one of them-I would choose number 10.

well said!

Q:what happens after the guy cums???A:who cares...
look i dont know who lied to yall but no one is special we r all on the same festering compost pile called earth..why do we delussion little girls w/faux princess b.s.its probably not the best idea to burry ur head in the sand.no one is special.if u want to keep the man blow him often if u want to keep the girl dont beat her and make lots of dough...sad but true

yea a good foot or back rub is nice...but boys...please dont follow those back/foot rubs with..."Okay...Now its my turn"

I refuse to believe that is what the world is destined to become. You may not agree, but I subscribe to the theory that we can make the world a better place one person at a time. It has to start somewhere.

It's ALL about respect and dignity too. With those two values in a relationship everything else positive will just come naturally, including the aforementioned list

Yup, some guys just don't get it sometimes. To much of the ME, ME, ME mentality still prevalent in today's society.

well good luck with that..im sure ur 1 in a billion.keep up the good fight...but look at the numbers on divorce and our general moral decline this world is not long..and if we put the punany on high we r just lying to them and ourselfs...

Yeah, I'm fairly unique among most guys. You're absolutely right about the moral decline. I think you need to rethink the idea that it's inevitable and we should all just accept the ugliness though. I for one refuse to give in, but you're welcome to your opinion.

Oh hell, I been divorced twice. I'm not just gonna fold up and spend the rest of my life wanking it and sleeping alone.
Sure, being dumped or breaking up sucks, but it's those moments of sadness that make us more aware and alive to feelings of joy and happiness.
The reality is, successful relationships aren't all fun and games. It takes WORK and serious commitment. The reason divorce is so out of hand is because western society has made it too easy to get divorced. Obviously there are times when divorce is the only answer, but too many people take the "easy way out" instead of putting forth the work and effort. Marriage is not a 50/50 partnership, it requires 100% effort on BOTH parts.

Everyone is special - unique.

I liked the OP. Thanks.