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XElectrikXGlamorousX Joined Fri 11/23/07 Posts: 2366	Sat 06/21/08 09:50 PM
Yes maybe they are just sick of not getting out of the house as much and taking it out on you Well my mom could have went back to work in the middle of may, but she took over until july, so that her fault. And my stepdad oh he is going to be sitting on his butt until the end of spet..or until his doctor release him back to work. Take it from a parent - they're getting on each other's nerves and you're caught up in the sh*t storm. Well none of my siblings get yelled at or anything. No it always have be the oldest one. Yeah, generally.... Yeah..argh its not fair. Nope, it's not. But you are probably the strongest - more mature, of the children. They don't mean it, just venting. And later they will feel some remorse. Well I am the most mature out of my siblings, and yeah I can helding being yelled at to a point. I hope they do.

wyatt1844 Joined Sat 01/26/08 Posts: 6761	Sat 06/21/08 09:51 PM
When you say "they" - siblings or parents?

Ghostrider2u Joined Thu 05/17/07 Posts: 6953	Sat 06/21/08 09:53 PM
just relax and enjoy the ride.....and remember... YOU get to be .....the Parent......someday.........

XElectrikXGlamorousX Joined Fri 11/23/07 Posts: 2366	Sat 06/21/08 09:55 PM
just relax and enjoy the ride.....and remember... YOU get to be .....the Parent......someday......... I know that. I do want to be a mother someday. bBt I would never tell my children "you need to start paying rent"

XElectrikXGlamorousX Joined Fri 11/23/07 Posts: 2366	Sat 06/21/08 09:56 PM
When you say "they" - siblings or parents? the parents, i hope they realize that your making themselfs grumpy.

Redshirt Joined Tue 02/26/08 Posts: 2109	Sat 06/21/08 09:58 PM
just relax and enjoy the ride.....and remember... YOU get to be .....the Parent......someday......... I know that. I do want to be a mother someday. bBt I would never tell my children "you need to start paying rent" I lived with my folks for awhile after college. Since I had a job I gave them some money to help out with the food or would buy the groceries. It was the adult thing to do.

wyatt1844 Joined Sat 01/26/08 Posts: 6761	Sat 06/21/08 09:59 PM
When you say "they" - siblings or parents? the parents, i hope they realize that your making themselfs grumpy. If they weren't grumpy already, they wouldn't be yelling at you.

unsure Joined Wed 08/16/06 Posts: 4886	Sat 06/21/08 09:59 PM
Have you ever thought that maybe if you young kids weren't such a pain in the arse that us parents wouldn't be so mean? Why is it that all these young kids expect so much? I have found that the younger generation is stuck in the ME SYNDROM...its all about them or so they think!! When I was 18, I don't remember being so selfish and ever thinking the world revolved around me! I think people need to realize that not everything can be handed to you, you have to work for it!! So..get a job and do something around the house and then maybe your parents won't be so grumpy

XElectrikXGlamorousX Joined Fri 11/23/07 Posts: 2366	Sat 06/21/08 10:04 PM Edited by XElectrikXGlamorousX on Sat 06/21/08 10:05 PM
Have you ever thought that maybe if you young kids weren't such a pain in the arse that us parents wouldn't be so mean? Why is it that all these young kids expect so much? I have found that the younger generation is stuck in the ME SYNDROM...its all about them or so they think!! When I was 18, I don't remember being so selfish and ever thinking the world revolved around me! I think people need to realize that not everything can be handed to you, you have to work for it!! So..get a job and do something around the house and then maybe your parents won't be so grumpy Excuse me...I know the world doesnt revolved arounf me. And I do have a FULL TIME JOB, and I do, do things around the house. I help with cleaning, help make meals, do the dishes after meals, do my own laundry, and help take care of my siblings and take my places when they want and need to go somewhere. It's not like Im a dead bet, I work to pay my bills.

markman000 Joined Fri 06/13/08 Posts: 961	Sat 06/21/08 10:06 PM
Have you ever thought that maybe if you young kids weren't such a pain in the arse that us parents wouldn't be so mean? Why is it that all these young kids expect so much? I have found that the younger generation is stuck in the ME SYNDROM...its all about them or so they think!! When I was 18, I don't remember being so selfish and ever thinking the world revolved around me! I think people need to realize that not everything can be handed to you, you have to work for it!! So..get a job and do something around the house and then maybe your parents won't be so grumpy maybe she has a job already? dont be rude to this awesome girl when you dont know her

s1owhand Joined Fri 05/18/07 Posts: 29437	Sat 06/21/08 10:08 PM
just relax and enjoy the ride.....and remember... YOU get to be .....the Parent......someday......... I know that. I do want to be a mother someday. bBt I would never tell my children "you need to start paying rent" they probably think they are going to make you more responsible by forcing you out on your own - "MAKING you self-sufficient" However, in actuality they may just wind up creating unnecessary anxiety by taking away parental support. Why can't they just help you save and even help you find a place of your own with some roomates and make sure you know that you will have their help and support as long as you need it? Will probably be a short enough time anyway... mine were always there for me although i lived on my own as soon as i went off to college at 18...

XElectrikXGlamorousX Joined Fri 11/23/07 Posts: 2366	Sat 06/21/08 10:12 PM
just relax and enjoy the ride.....and remember... YOU get to be .....the Parent......someday......... I know that. I do want to be a mother someday. bBt I would never tell my children "you need to start paying rent" they probably think they are going to make you more responsible by forcing you out on your own - "MAKING you self-sufficient" However, in actuality they may just wind up creating unnecessary anxiety by taking away parental support. Why can't they just help you save and even help you find a place of your own with some roomates and make sure you know that you will have their help and support as long as you need it? Will probably be a short enough time anyway... mine were always there for me although i lived on my own as soon as i went off to college at 18... The parents know already I cant afford to move out on my own, but yet they want me to start paying a fee for living here. So its like you want me to move out some time in the near futrue but your not letting me save me money..your making my pay to live here. So I'm not going to get ahead anywhere.

s1owhand Joined Fri 05/18/07 Posts: 29437	Sat 06/21/08 10:17 PM
they will eventually come around after some discussion about how things will work out in the long run...

moofooga Joined Thu 01/31/08 Posts: 25515	Sat 06/21/08 10:19 PM
So hard to understand and sometimes to get along with? It's the drugs. Trust me on this one.

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Sat 06/21/08 10:22 PM
When my daughter turns 18 the child support stops. If she doesnt' contribute to her own upkeep, we won't have a house to live in. Hard cold realities are difficult to deal with, but it is not necessarily cruel to expect your adult children to pay their own way.

Redshirt Joined Tue 02/26/08 Posts: 2109	Sat 06/21/08 10:26 PM
When my daughter turns 18 the child support stops. If she doesnt' contribute to her own upkeep, we won't have a house to live in. Hard cold realities are difficult to deal with, but it is not necessarily cruel to expect your adult children to pay their own way. AMEN. My step-daughter lived with my ex and I for several months and paid rent. She complained once to her sister. Her sister's response, "You should be paying twice that amount."

Winx Joined Fri 08/31/07 Posts: 39051	Sat 06/21/08 10:37 PM Edited by Winx on Sat 06/21/08 10:38 PM
just relax and enjoy the ride.....and remember... YOU get to be .....the Parent......someday......... I know that. I do want to be a mother someday. bBt I would never tell my children "you need to start paying rent" Why not? If they are working and out of high school, why shouldn't they contribute money towards the food that they eat, etc. It is all part of growing up and being an adult. We don't want our children to grow up to be spoiled brats. We want them to be responsible adults.

Winx Joined Fri 08/31/07 Posts: 39051	Sat 06/21/08 10:40 PM
My job as a parent is not complete unless I piss at least one of my kids off a day. I told my child that it's my job to embarrass them.

izzie Joined Wed 02/21/07 Posts: 31834	Sat 06/21/08 10:41 PM
just relax and enjoy the ride.....and remember... YOU get to be .....the Parent......someday......... I know that. I do want to be a mother someday. bBt I would never tell my children "you need to start paying rent" i lived with my parents. i moved back in after a domestic situation went teribly WRONG!!! me and my 4 children moved in... shared one room... and i bought our own food... AND I PAID RENT!!!!! a question for ya.. how old are you? over 18??? then pay rent. even if its only a lil bit.. but if you are over 18, you are an adult.. and sad as it is.. adults pay rent... jmo

Winx Joined Fri 08/31/07 Posts: 39051	Sat 06/21/08 10:42 PM
Yes maybe they are just sick of not getting out of the house as much and taking it out on you Well my mom could have went back to work in the middle of may, but she took over until july, so that her fault. And my stepdad oh he is going to be sitting on his butt until the end of spet..or until his doctor release him back to work. Ummm...he's not sitting on his butt. He's under a doctor's care.