i have a question, i have a friend of mine that i have known for over 30yrs and i introduced her to her hubby about 23yrs ago as i had dated him for a brief, and were still friends. she left him awhile back for a short time and i let her stay with me for awhile and she went back to him.i think it was because the kids wanted to go back to him. but any how i have been talking to him on messenger and the way it sounds that he still has thoughts for me, but im not going to brake up there marriage because of what he wants. (im not that type to do that) he keeps talking about she wont do this or that, and doesnt give him hugs or kiss, nothing is wrong with a hug from a friend i have done that to many and no big deal... i just dont understand him if hes not happy then why doesnt he just leave like he has number of times in the past. as in the past he had met females on the net and went and stayed with them for a short time.. he states oh its not like i was cheating for im not, but yet he freaked out and accused her on cheating when she left him, but she didnt..
should i tell her what hes been saying, its like in some ways the other day on his action just because i didnt respond back untill much later in the eve it was like i didnt want him to come over and visit. he was puting a guilt trip on me.. thats the way i saw it and that wasent right.

i know your friends and all..but you need to tred carefully here you could end up getting the blame for everything hun

Very much a double edged sword. The messenger usually gets blamed. I think that you should stop talking to him,as you are only contributing to his less than savory behavior. Your friend probably alreay knows that her husband is an ass. Just be there for her when the **** hits the fan.

Be careful how you handle this, you might lose both friendships if you lean to much towards consoling him. Decide what their friendship is worth to you