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Topic: If someone you love
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Mon 06/16/08 08:48 PM

I think it depends on whether or not it was any of my business. Some things are just private and should remain so.


I prefer you tell me you cannot share that info, or don't choose to...but never ever lie to me. It's an insult.

I understand privacy and there are certainly things that fall under that category for everyone.

But flat out lies are untolerable and a disservice to both people in the conversation.



PATSFAN's photo
Mon 06/16/08 08:48 PM
Dig a big ditch & bury the B!tch!!!

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Mon 06/16/08 08:49 PM

Dig a big ditch & bury the B!tch!!!


OK there is that option too!

Lily0923's photo
Mon 06/16/08 08:49 PM

I think it depends on whether or not it was any of my business. Some things are just private and should remain so.


What if it was about nothing? lieing just to lie?

I'm not saying how many women have you been with kinda stuff... like what was your previous job...things that don't matter one way or the other.

iatomcat's photo
Mon 06/16/08 08:51 PM
Lying about one's past is pretty serious. Makes you wonder what else they've lied about.
It's important to be open and honest about yourself from the beginning.

You have a lot to think about...

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Mon 06/16/08 08:51 PM


I think it depends on whether or not it was any of my business. Some things are just private and should remain so.


I prefer you tell me you cannot share that info, or don't choose to...but never ever lie to me. It's an insult.

I understand privacy and there are certainly things that fall under that category for everyone.

But flat out lies are untolerable and a disservice to both people in the conversation.





well true, but if someone asks "have you ever.." and you say, "that is private"; it's the same as saying "yes, I have."

So if you lie in that way to protect your privacy I don't know that it is necessarily the end of the relationship.

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Mon 06/16/08 08:52 PM


I think it depends on whether or not it was any of my business. Some things are just private and should remain so.


What if it was about nothing? lieing just to lie?

I'm not saying how many women have you been with kinda stuff... like what was your previous job...things that don't matter one way or the other.
Ah, we are talking about a compulsive or habitual liar type, then.

Ditch 'em. That type doesn't change.

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Mon 06/16/08 08:53 PM
I don't do lies and if I catch someone in one you are history. Trust is vital too me and if I can't trust you I don't need you...that may sound harsh and maybe it is but we all have deal breakers and lies are the biggest of mine.

guyguy1225's photo
Mon 06/16/08 08:55 PM

Depends on what they lied about and why they lied.
Ditto here

TheShadow's photo
Mon 06/16/08 08:55 PM

lies to you about their past, how do you deal with it?


It's depends, have to wait and see what happens. There can be so many things, but for the most part, id say i have an open mind. Then again it's better to find out through them then yourself...

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Mon 06/16/08 08:57 PM

I don't do lies and if I catch someone in one you are history. Trust is vital too me and if I can't trust you I don't need you...that may sound harsh and maybe it is but we all have deal breakers and lies are the biggest of mine.
aha !! you are a feisty one !!!but iiiii like it!laugh drinker

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Mon 06/16/08 08:58 PM
I would rather they tell me nothing than to lie about it. Privacy, I can handle...even one lie makes me distrustful of them about everything they've ever told me. I can't see staying with someone I cannot trust completely.

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Mon 06/16/08 09:31 PM


I don't do lies and if I catch someone in one you are history. Trust is vital too me and if I can't trust you I don't need you...that may sound harsh and maybe it is but we all have deal breakers and lies are the biggest of mine.
aha !! you are a feisty one !!!but iiiii like it!laugh drinker


*grin* and did you think the feisty was an unearned nickname?

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Mon 06/16/08 09:50 PM
Tell one lie and a thousand truths are questioned...

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Mon 06/16/08 09:57 PM
Tell a thousand truths, and people wonder what the hell you're up to....

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Mon 06/16/08 10:10 PM

lies to you about their past, how do you deal with it?

People eventually tell on themselves eventually, anyway and it doesn't take much to figure it out. I generally show intolerance for lies like that but give them a chance to come clean. I can handle a good deal of honesty as long as they're trying to save their a$$. Saving face lies don't cut it though.

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Tue 06/17/08 03:49 AM

Tell a thousand truths, and people wonder what the hell you're up to....
What ARE you up to Jace? We all want to know!

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Tue 06/17/08 03:57 AM


Tell a thousand truths, and people wonder what the hell you're up to....
What ARE you up to Jace? We all want to know!


See? And you people thought I was just being paranoid.... glasses

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