Everyone keeps on saying tell the truth. Honesty is a quality I stand behind and try my best at. You need to understand that I have been totally honest with her to the point where I ask myself, is she really getting this? Example: Billy says, "I am very busy throughout the week with work and would not be able to get together until a weekend. She replies, almost in the next sentence, "Can you come down and see me Wednesday?" I have also already been blundt and said that this is not going to work out between us because of my schedule and our personality traits. I don't wish to be mean, but can I please just her her over the head with a sledge hammer, perhaps it will sink in then.

I've now resorted to doing the ignore mode and have also blocked her IM's. Now if I could just figure out how to call block her on my cell phone. Thank God she doesn't know my address! You have no clue how ignorant and persistent this girl is.

Have you told her to not call you anymore? Have you told her that you are not interested in her?

If you havent thats step one.


***and guys with the (joking) but mean comments...you make a person wonder why a girl even wants to date.***

just say NO~

just tell her to lose ur number..it worked for me when i needed it to...welll that and the combo of if u dont stop calling me i'm pressing harrassment charges.

I hear you! When the truth just won't sink in...it has to be put more bluntly sometimes. This is one of the hardest things for me too. But you're doing neither one of you any favors by putting it off.

Pst...I've seen a lot of movies where this ends badly...keep the hammer nearby just in case.

I mean you are a grown man, act like it. if you dont want to see her again, tell her...not just say "Oh, Im busy until next week" and ignore her IMs. Ignoring some poor girl that fancies you makes you look like the ass not her. Man up, grow some and tell her the truth. Simple.

she's shy and an introvet?? and texting you 32 times a day???

Maybe you do just need to be blunt and tell her not to call you anymore, that the calls while you are at work are just not cool, period. Tell her that if she continues you simply won't be answering and she will be wasting her time.

You enjoyed meeting her but that you don't see this going anywhere...try that one.


Some females (people) are so lonely and desperate that the slightest sign of attention has them falling 'in love'. Sad.
We all aren't like that, have faith!
Sorry you got into this mess

Wow.... that was pretty direct communication there . Perhaps I need to take a lesson in how to make people dislike me too.

Tell her to get lost. It might hurt her in the beginning but she is a stalker or else she would get the picture. If you have been completly honest with her and not lead her to "think" there may be more in the future then you owe her nothing. But watch your back!

Tazz!! Give Hiker her lips back.

I hear ya! I know of a lot of shy people that find it very easy to hide behind a computer screen. You have very good advice though - thank you kindly.

Its the truth. Like it or not.

Hell if that don't work! I don't know what will

This is just a guess, and there's no MD next to my name:

Borderline Personality Disorder. If you attract one and become the object of her obsession, run. If you attract many, go see a shrink because odds are, you've got a problem too.

http://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/borderline-personality-disorder.shtml

Being clear that it's just friends would be really important, but if you have sex with that woman and don't mean it, it could get really ugly. Worse yet, if you do mean it, her obsessions could flip 180 degrees for any reason, or no reason what-so-ever leaving you thinking wtf. Been there, got the T-shirt and boy was it a learning experience. This particular disorder flags "friends only" for me.

idk..but when handed lemons...mix it with a lil bit of tequila...

Say what???? I have had these on my face since I was born! Go get your own!

Get my own Hiker or lips?

What ever floats your boat, CB!

Dude, you need to throw some gas on this fire!
Take her out and have a few drinks and just have a good time for the night
Then don't call her or reply to her Im's (unless it's 2am and you're drunk again when she calls )


LMAO...now thats throwing some gas on the fire

eh--try switchin' lemon to lime--it goes better with tequila---who cares--