Debbie, my cousin has had endometrosis since she was very young, the pain she endured was horrific. Her only option was also hysterectomy. She endured the pain because she wanted children so badly. She is now 28, has 2 beautiful children and a hysterectomy. The endometriosis was more tolerable between children but then got really bad again. So, hence the hysterectomy. Good Luck in whatever you choose to do....

Is it so important for you to be pregnant? Could you go the pain free route and adopt?

Being single today has no bearing on whether on not you can be pregnant and raise your own child.

I agree. And if it is that important to you to have a child in your life, there is the option of going ahead and getting pregnant through a sperm donor and raising the child on your own. But then again, you have to consider, do you want to do it that way so you can have child before your condition gets worse, or do you wait out the time to meet someone, fall in love, get married, and then consider having a baby which could as you say less your chances on being able to get pregnant at all?

i dont want to do it alone, i want to fall in love , and let it happen that way

i just hope i meet someone soon, because the longer this goes on, my chances are going down hill.

I can't even begin to imagine what you're going through or having to make the choices you are facing. It is easy for me to tell you I would choose the pain free route - I am already a mom.

If you were to choose the hysterectomy, at least you could get out and LIVE your life instead of suffering through every day. If you were my daughter, I would encourage you to strongly consider having the hysterectomy and looking into adoption.

Pain free!!!

can't you save some eggs or something to go the scifi route? This way u can have kids down the road and be healthy

Debbie, sweetheart, you are MUCH TOO YOUNG TO BE SLEEPING YOUR LIFE AWAY!

i saw one of my moms friends about 3 months ago, and she was in a lot of pain and waiting for a hip replacement, i saw her again the other day and shes had the surgery done, and she looked so much happier, this as got me thinking.

is it better to be in pain, to at least give trying for a baby a go,

OR

be done with it, have it all out, and be pain free??

what would you choose??

As I'm a pointer and not a setter, I am not one to speak of how strong a mother's urges are, but there's more to consider other than physical pain. There's also the emotional and mental strain pregnancy would have on you. To fulfill the need to be a mother, one could acheive similar success by marrying into a family already in progress. You also have a neice who brings similar happiness, and there are other volunteer efforts one could participate in. It would seem that the less painful route isn't too different, with the only difference being whether you get to mother a child right out of your own womb, or someone else's biological child.

For my own experience, it's both a strength and a weakness to have an unfulfilled desire to be a father. There have been times when I've found the most happiness by spending time with children who have no real male adult figure, and sometimes it blinds me to the quality of the mother.