Ok, I'll spoil it. BigGlenn, you know what the real sweeper is. Its
self-confidence. Somehow, somewhere I've lost it, and working to rebuild
it. Its the self-confidence that's the aphrodisiac. It doesnt work on
just the ladies, it works on anyone. With enough chutzpuh and confidence
you can march yourself into a business situation and walk out with a
half-million dollar deal. A little skill, a little chutzpuh, a little
need, and project as much bullshyt as confidence and you can make things
happen. Of course, without sincerity of intention it goes horribly
wrong, and quickly. Your intentions and sincerity appear honest.

My self-confidence is lacking, but, I'm working on it. I find it
excruciatingly hard to talk to someone initially. I find it painfull
when I realize I just made an ass of myself revealing how I felt about
someone when it wasnt on-par with their expectations... ah... when did
it get this way?

But, thats what you gotta do Glenn - project confidence. If you aint got
it, fake it. Project the bullshyt until the true confidence takes hold.
They so easily melt into each other - just keep your integrity intact
and you'll be good.

[Note to self: Re-read this post when i'm not buying my own bullshyt]

Hey Mike,
Self confidence isn't my problem. I'm a very confident and outgoing
guy. My problem is,when Going up and starting a conversation with a
woman, Every opening sounds like B.S. and I hate look like a B.S.er.

Just be yourself
Here's one opening line you might wanna use. " I'm not perfect, but i'm
always ME"
Or here's another one....NOBODY'S PERFECT, i am nobody.
I use those two on my MSN display sometimes. I prefer the first one.
Good luck to you.