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Topic: ADVICE plz... real advice
SimplyElla's photo
Sun 06/08/08 11:16 AM
Yeh, so what’s the deal?! I seem to keep having repeat weekends here. A different night, new bar, many many miles away from my normal bars, and yet the inevitable truth follows me. I must have a neon sign that only ‘taken’ guys can see and a stamp on my forehead that says "i'll go home with you tonight"

wtf... what am i doing wrong?

AllSmilesInTulsa's photo
Sun 06/08/08 11:18 AM
I'm confused..
You are going home with taken guys?

Tankk's photo
Sun 06/08/08 11:18 AM
It's about the energy you send out...and your expectations that it will be the same results over and over again...think people pick up on that.

Anna_I's photo
Sun 06/08/08 11:19 AM
Try somewhere else besides a bar.

coffee shops...book store...

SimplyElla's photo
Sun 06/08/08 11:19 AM
bwahah... no i am not going home with taken guys... but i do attract ones that are taken a lot of the time and i also attract the type of men that assume i am an easy lay sad :cry: sad

PATSFAN's photo
Sun 06/08/08 11:20 AM
Try " Mutual Match" & find men who are not taken today!!

Alterego1961's photo
Sun 06/08/08 11:20 AM

Try somewhere else besides a bar.

coffee shops...book store...


Yeah, there are way too many guys in bars looking for just that one thing. You need to improve your odds and lessen the jerk factor! bigsmile flowerforyou flowerforyou

DTHRomeo's photo
Sun 06/08/08 11:22 AM

Try " Mutual Match" & find men who are not taken today!!

LOL laugh laugh laugh

PATS ... you're supposed to help here

SimplyElla's photo
Sun 06/08/08 11:23 AM
I do frequent bookstores and coffee shops ... too study... but me being there for that is not allowing my self to look approachable I guess

the reasons why I am at a lot of bars is because I am on a dart tournament as well as a flip cup/beer pong team

jonny63's photo
Sun 06/08/08 11:23 AM
<<---------------Not Taken!!!flowerforyou :heart: flowerforyou

MYheartACHES4u's photo
Sun 06/08/08 11:27 AM

I do frequent bookstores and coffee shops ... too study... but me being there for that is not allowing my self to look approachable I guess

the reasons why I am at a lot of bars is because I am on a dart tournament as well as a flip cup/beer pong team


girl you rock..........if i wasn't takenlaugh laugh laugh laugh J/K.......even if i was takenlaugh laugh laugh

Anna_I's photo
Sun 06/08/08 11:28 AM
Maybe stepping out of your element once in while..might open up for something different for you...

not sure..just a thought...:smile:

IndnPrncs's photo
Sun 06/08/08 11:28 AM
Ella not that it should matter but how do you dress? Could this send the signals? Anyway you look at it, it's them not you b/c they should never ever assume that any woman is easy nor that one would want a married/taken man....

SimplyElla's photo
Sun 06/08/08 11:30 AM
MHA4U -- you are crazy ha ha ha... love it... ha ha ha




Anna -- grumble You are right I guess... even at work though I get patients coming on to me and completely open about being with some one and just wanting to have "fun"

Kravynn's photo
Sun 06/08/08 11:33 AM
I kind of have the same prob. Only I live in the biggest little city in the world. So wherever I go I run into someone I know. Except here. Its cool.

SimplyElla's photo
Sun 06/08/08 11:34 AM

Ella not that it should matter but how do you dress? Could this send the signals? Anyway you look at it, it's them not you b/c they should never ever assume that any woman is easy nor that one would want a married/taken man....


child i am as plain as they come... jeans flip flops and a tank or some shirt... ha ha...

i ask then why on earth would they think i am like that... i get these main responses.... "you're different" "you're a cool chick" "there is something about you" yeah wth...righhht.. simply Ella that is me that is it

IndnPrncs's photo
Sun 06/08/08 11:37 AM


Ella not that it should matter but how do you dress? Could this send the signals? Anyway you look at it, it's them not you b/c they should never ever assume that any woman is easy nor that one would want a married/taken man....


child i am as plain as they come... jeans flip flops and a tank or some shirt... ha ha...

i ask then why on earth would they think i am like that... i get these main responses.... "you're different" "you're a cool chick" "there is something about you" yeah wth...righhht.. simply Ella that is me that is it


Ahhh they must be used to bimbo's since you're not that's all they got... Morons.. Hmmm we need to think of a gimmick for you to make them turn beat red if they approach you like that..

jonny63's photo
Sun 06/08/08 11:37 AM

<<---------------Not Taken!!!flowerforyou :heart: flowerforyou

And portable!bigsmile

AllSmilesInTulsa's photo
Sun 06/08/08 11:44 AM
You can only control your own behavior. It seems times have not changed since I was "out and about" in the bar scene.

I think you can go and still have fun but keep your expectations reasonable.. afterall, it IS a bar!


Alterego1961's photo
Sun 06/08/08 11:45 AM
Maybe it's something that can't be easily explained. My ex has had that problem most of her life no matter where she is. It doesn't even have to be a bar. She has had guys try to pick her up in church before. Maybe you have a look that sort of men find appealing. Who knows? All you can do when that happens is accept their advances as a compliment and try to ignore them afterward. Good luck. flowerforyou flowerforyou

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